I agree too, just end it. No need for pointless sex, a vacation that's going nowhere and dragging out an obvious ending.
I agree too, just end it. No need for pointless sex, a vacation that's going nowhere and dragging out an obvious ending.
I see it as level the playing field. And teaching a lesson.This is playing games and unlikely to help the OP get past a hurtful experience.
What are the other options, let's see:
1) she cancels the holidays and her BF takes his ex instead, ouch! Plus, she would lose a good amount of money-2 weeks in Mexico from the UK, must be pricey
2) she calls him on his BS, he becomes defensive, she overreacts and loses all dignity-not nice either;
3) she sweeps the incident under the rug and continues to act like the cool girlfriend-result: he pushes the envelope further and then next holidays they go the 3 of them-"her"BF, his ex and him! Lol, another ouch.
She has to put her foot down and inflict some ego demage if this man-boy is about to come to his senses. Like they say "with the roses, be a rose; with the throns-be a thorn."
What you are proposing is not only incredibly vindictive, but you'd have to be pretty pathological to actually pull that off...... I sincerely hope this is a fun to think about, but not something you are seriously advocating or would actually do yourself things.Originally Posted by East4
Sane people don't get into this kind messy drama/acting/revenge nonsense. They just walk away.
I'm sorry Nadine but your bullshyt meter defintely needs some fine tuning.
He lied to you. I mean he is okay enough to have dinner with his ex, but too "sick" to see you?
I'm calling major bs on that and so should you.
Dealbreaker actually..
I would dump his azz. The fact that he went out, after he told you that he could not see you, is awful. It is even worse that he went out with his ex. She takes priority over you.. Honey, he does value you or the relationship.Originally Posted by nadineblack
I would cancel. I would not care about the cost. What are the terms for the air ticket and hotels?
I would grab a girlfriend and go to Mexico and have a great time without his cheating a$$.
Why even bother. This would show a lack of self respect and too much emotional involvement. The adult thing would be to move on.Originally Posted by East4
She loses her "dignity" if she follows your plan.
I agree Holls. There is no bringing such person to his "senses."Originally Posted by Hollyj
That's her playing mom, which is not conducive to anything even remotely resembling a healthy dynamic.
Just move on, the end.
Uh, wow. OK.Originally Posted by East4
Hey OP, LHGirl has given you the soundest advice in my opinion. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Leave that messy drama behind and put up some walls between you and him. Don't play his games and move on to better things and better people. Sorry this happened to you. Good luck.