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We got together almost 7 years ago--was crazy wild at first-- testing each other, lots and lots of sex, too much drinking, all that stuff-- we are older---so I thought once all that wore off, we would have the typical relationship--- He seemed to drink a lot, there were drugs, but again, I thought once we got thru that phase it would surely settle down---How could you possibly keep that up?

Got married quickly, , things still crazy, cracks starting to show---I always assumed it was me--reality has hit--- he has a terrible temper--everyone just avoids him due to it--

He will seriously watch porn all afternoon, never once attempt to do chores, and yes I have asked in every possible way, so I clean up after him---YOU HAVE NO IDEA!!! Makes eggs, and slops them all over the counter and just leaves it--has burnt the coffee table and new sofa with his cigars, He drops his clothes everywhere---refuses to clean/help out--- he is drunk most of the time, when using the toilet he almost never lifts the seat--which of course sucks, but most times does not flush, and worse yet, 50% of the time just pees on the floor--says he has a prostrate issue's and I am making him feel bad when I complain to clean it up--- his own family won't allow him to visit without someone to clean up after him-

So here it is-- he only wants me to do him with a dildo, and then to suck/lick his nipples till he masturbates. He thinks I should feel proud and honored that I am able to please my husband. He says, 'aren't you glad that you can make your husband feel good'-- I seriously want to .....I am not sure-- he hasn't really had sex with me in over 6 months--- which is ok---I would rather go without--- even when we are attempting to have sex he tells me how he would prefer me to get the dildo out and do him--- he continues to whine and cry till I do--even if I say honey let's just enjoy each other tenderly together, he whines and complains like a 3 year old, 'but this is what I want, don't you want to take care of your husband?"

He has me to the point that I know I need to leave, but I think I never ever EVER want to have sex again--- My one good friend who knows a little of this always tells me to leave--he has made me feel so degraded, and of course taken everything I had from me. He had isolated me from every friend--he has destroyed all friendships and made me dependent on him. I know that he is communicating with old girlfriends----and have told him how it hurts me-- but I thing because I do not want him physically the way he want me to--taking care of him only, --he feels he has the 'right'---any advice besides just the obvious?

You are with an abusive alcoholic. You enable his drinking, act like a servant and call girl and condone and encourage this reprehensible behavior by mommying him. He didn't "make you dependent" on him. You just won't get a job and get on your own and leave and that is your choice.. You have a laundry list of what a sleazeball he is and what a victim you are but there's something in this for you so you choose to stay. No offense but hopefully you're just trolling.

-He seemed to drink a lot, there were drugs

-Got married quickly

-I clean up after him

-he is drunk most of the time. 50% of the time just pees on the floor

-he whines and complains like a 3 year old

-He had isolated me from every friend

-made me dependent on him.

-I know that he is communicating with old girlfriends

This sounds like pure torture. Why on earth would you stay with this man? All of it sounds horrid.

I'm sorry, but this is so awful that it's almost comical. You need to leave.

Are you working? Do you have family that can take you in? Start planning your exit methodically. I would get advice from a divorce lawyer.