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    I'm not sure what to do!

    Hi, I'm at a loss of what do do,I have been with my partner for a long time.We have been through so much stress together, money worries, health issues ,been evicted so I take this into account but my partner keeps getting fed up of my severe allergies that started a year ago,I'm allergic to everything pretty much,and he has health worries he says he worried about money and stuff ,I've offered him advice on those issues,cooked him special dinners ,massages, tried to be there for him,He says hes sick of my never ending issues with my allergies, or worries about finding work ect .He doesn't listen often and when I get upset over this he tells me to shut up! Or I'm sick of your tone I hate the sound of your voice ,he says I've tried so hard to remain calm but when I'm upset it's hard to sound calm.when I was struggling a while back I needed support he told me to just get on with things,that's what he dose,I tried so hard to do that, and not tell him about my problems.i often try not to talk to him ,he's called me names before when he's angry.Hes asked me questions then not let me answer then got annoyed he chased me down stairs ,I said I wanted to go out ,he blocked me and grabbed me saying for us to carry on talking, I was upset by this,he has mocked me as well and I get sarcastic comments or he jokes when I need him to be serious, I've said please be more sensitive and he tries but then goes back to being horrible.He had apologised for those things but recently he said for f sake I'm not taking to you then when I went up to explain I didn't know he wasn't talking to me he said shut the f up and hit me with a piece of clothing it wasn't hard but it scared me! He said it wasn't abh he said I shouldn't have followed him up! He says I push him too it.He said he would go to councilling.He can be really nice loving as well but he makes me feel like a burden on him as he says hes sick of my never ending issues with my allergies and other stuff. I'm not sure what I can do he can be so nice he says he acts like thus cause he s so stressed out but I don't know if he will change ,we've been going round in circles for a yr.i have no friends or family I can stay with if I decide to leave. He says hes not being abusive as he's not beating me to a pulp and he's not controlling me.He also makes the effort and for a couple of days then he gets annoyed with me.He says he listens ,but I don't feel he dose that much.We have been over the same issues for a year ,he makes an effort says he understand then doesn't understand then he getting annoyed and angry with me.

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    Are either one of you working?

    The relationship sounds really unhealthy and emotionally abusive. He does not sound like he loves or respects you.

    Time to exit this relationship. He takes no responsibility and sounds mean.

    Have you sought treatment for your allergies.

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    He works but I'm not I have severe health issues.He says he loves me but how can he love me but treat me like this? I stayed at a hotel to get away but have nowhere to go.

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    He is abusive. It is not only physical to be abuse..

    Where is your family? Why don't you have any friends? Where would do if he left you?

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    I'm waiting for a dr referal for my allergies, they are severe huge rashes ,throat closing over foods cosmetics ect it's not my fault even mold and dust really effect me.

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    Originally Posted by Moonlight37
    He works but I'm not I have severe health issues.He says he loves me but how can he love me but treat me like this? I stayed at a hotel to get away but have nowhere to go.
    You should only look at people's actions. Words mean nothing.

    Have you seen a doctor?

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    My mother moved ,she said I can't live with her ! And my dad s disappeared.ive tried contacting a few Facebook friends but they don't get back to me.

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    Originally Posted by Moonlight37
    I'm waiting for a dr referal for my allergies, they are severe huge rashes ,throat closing over foods cosmetics ect it's not my fault even mold and dust really effect me.
    It has taken a year to get a referral? Your symptoms sound terrible.

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    There are no siblings?

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    I have seen a dr and I'm trying to get a appoiment for my allergies but it takes time to be referred.

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