Hi, I'm at a loss of what do do,I have been with my partner for a long time.We have been through so much stress together, money worries, health issues ,been evicted so I take this into account but my partner keeps getting fed up of my severe allergies that started a year ago,I'm allergic to everything pretty much,and he has health worries he says he worried about money and stuff ,I've offered him advice on those issues,cooked him special dinners ,massages, tried to be there for him,He says hes sick of my never ending issues with my allergies, or worries about finding work ect .He doesn't listen often and when I get upset over this he tells me to shut up! Or I'm sick of your tone I hate the sound of your voice ,he says I've tried so hard to remain calm but when I'm upset it's hard to sound calm.when I was struggling a while back I needed support he told me to just get on with things,that's what he dose,I tried so hard to do that, and not tell him about my problems.i often try not to talk to him ,he's called me names before when he's angry.Hes asked me questions then not let me answer then got annoyed he chased me down stairs ,I said I wanted to go out ,he blocked me and grabbed me saying for us to carry on talking, I was upset by this,he has mocked me as well and I get sarcastic comments or he jokes when I need him to be serious, I've said please be more sensitive and he tries but then goes back to being horrible.He had apologised for those things but recently he said for f sake I'm not taking to you then when I went up to explain I didn't know he wasn't talking to me he said shut the f up and hit me with a piece of clothing it wasn't hard but it scared me! He said it wasn't abh he said I shouldn't have followed him up! He says I push him too it.He said he would go to councilling.He can be really nice loving as well but he makes me feel like a burden on him as he says hes sick of my never ending issues with my allergies and other stuff. I'm not sure what I can do he can be so nice he says he acts like thus cause he s so stressed out but I don't know if he will change ,we've been going round in circles for a yr.i have no friends or family I can stay with if I decide to leave. He says hes not being abusive as he's not beating me to a pulp and he's not controlling me.He also makes the effort and for a couple of days then he gets annoyed with me.He says he listens ,but I don't feel he dose that much.We have been over the same issues for a year ,he makes an effort says he understand then doesn't understand then he getting annoyed and angry with me.
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