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Thread: Annoyed at FIL reluctance to help during childbirth

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    If you are mad you are mad, however looking at it objectively I think your FIL did the responsible thing by telling you he didn't feel comfortable. He was afraid she would get hurt because he couldn't keep up with her... how would you have felt if something had happened to your daughter while she was in his care because you thought he should "suck it up"?

    Not only this but he is worried about his wife. She may have thought she would be better by now but clearly that's not the case.

    Try and let go of your frustrations and just trust that things will work out. I am sure if you actually asked your friends and told them it was an emergency, they would be willing to pitch in and help out.

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    Man... my future SiL or DIL are gonna hate my a** cause once Iím done, Iím done. I have no obligation to help raise my kids, kids. They will know without a shadow of a doubt itís a privilege, not a right. My life is mine. If I didnít lay down and make the kid, I am under no obligation.

    You made mention of your mother-in-law crossing boundaries but the irony is you donít realize the boundary you are crossing by expecting them to essentially be your on call nanny. Find childcare or how about this YOU suck it up and give birth to your child and have your husband watch your other child. Hundreds of thousands of parents dont have a support system recognize the gift youíve been given, maybe recognize your hormones are possibly making you a bit moody and entitled and be willing to compromise.

    This is a happy and joyous event! Donít go into it angry at anyone.

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    Why isn't your husband, the father watching the kid at night?

    And if my friend needed me to watch their kid regardless of work and my own kids, I would totally watch their kid till their dad got the after you guys are done with delivery.

    You're MIL is in bad shape. Her husband is taking care of her. That's the way it goes. Ask a friend, cousin, aunt, uncle, etc.

    I've got two kids, and would never get mad because they needed to care for their spouse and couldn't watch my kids. I mean, they could drop dead today. Either way, always have backups.

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