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Thread: What's the next step above spanking?

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    What's the next step above spanking?

    My apologies if this is too much for the forum, I honestly just don't know where else to ask this anonymously.

    I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks. We've talked about sexual fantasies and stuff, and she's expressed interest in being tied up and spanked (but in a sensual way, not too hard). Which is great, that's my speed.

    Tonight we were talking sexually, and we got to a point where she said that she needed to be punished. In the fantasy she's already nude, so I replied with a bit about bending her over and spanking her.

    She said that she didn't think it was going to be enough for her to learn her lesson, I would have to come up with something else.

    Ermm...

    Maybe I'm just not that imaginative, I don't know, but I honestly didn't know how to reply to this.

    She wants to be spanked, but not too hard... so I would think that suggesting a belt would be too much.

    She's never commented on anal, so saying something about that might go way overboard... or it might be exactly what she had in mind, I have no idea.

    We're still new and having fun, so I don't want to come across as boring and unimaginative... but alas, it appears that I'm boring and unimaginative. So if a girl told you that she needed to be punished and spanking wasn't enough... where would you go next?

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    Have you met in person? Is this a paid service you're "talking to"?
    Originally Posted by csdude55
    Tonight we were talking sexually, and we got to a point where she said that she needed to be punished. In the fantasy she's already nude, so I replied with a bit about bending her over and spanking her.

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    Smack her silly.

    Lol..just kidding.

    I'm not the person to ask.

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    I don't know. Have you already had sex in real life?

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    Well it's a difficult question because we just have no idea what she'd want....Why don't you ask her more questions? It's very difficult to know what people want sexually without actually knowing the person and especially without talking to them about it. I think communication is key in physical intimacy.

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    Buddy as this is new territory to you , switch it on to her and role play with her telling you what she would do ....then you can get a better feel for how far she will go .

    This is just talk yes ? If it is real life stuff you need to talk about it and get your selves a safe word incase one of you goes to far .

    I think she just wants to be the bad girl and you tie her up ( with anything ) like you could pretend you just got in from a day at the office to find she as been *very bad * so tell her to get on her knees and tie her hands behind her back with your tie , well she in on her knees ..so ..................untill her punishment is over ...spanking can be with anything , but there are many different paddles to use ( google is your friend ) or over your knee for a good old telling off ...

    You could also blindfold her and tell her to wait until you decide what the punishment will be ..build the tension a bit ...

    I need to stop ..I feel like I am having sex infront of everyone , but hope you get the picture .

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    Originally Posted by Tinydance
    Well it's a difficult question because we just have no idea what she'd want....Why don't you ask her more questions? It's very difficult to know what people want sexually without actually knowing the person and especially without talking to them about it. I think communication is key in physical intimacy.
    This is what you need to do in all honesty !

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    Originally Posted by pippy longstocking
    Buddy as this is new territory to you , switch it on to her and role play with her telling you what she would do ....then you can get a better feel for how far she will go .

    This is just talk yes ? If it is real life stuff you need to talk about it and get your selves a safe word incase one of you goes to far .

    I think she just wants to be the bad girl and you tie her up ( with anything ) like you could pretend you just got in from a day at the office to find she as been *very bad * so tell her to get on her knees and tie her hands behind her back with your tie , well she in on her knees ..so ..................untill her punishment is over ...spanking can be with anything , but there are many different paddles to use ( google is your friend ) or over your knee for a good old telling off ...

    You could also blindfold her and tell her to wait until you decide what the punishment will be ..build the tension a bit ...

    I need to stop ..I feel like I am having sex infront of everyone , but hope you get the picture .
    I like it when connoisseurs join this kind of threads!!!

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    Ehh tell her she's going to have to do some *hard* time if she can't learn her lesson, but first you'll have to confiscate her before she's taken in. So yeah, suggest to tie her up with your clothes, the sheets, or your belt. Say you'll have to make her learn, or something along those lines. Ice cube "torture" comes to mind. Or playfully ask her "what should I do with you?". Make it fun, good luck!

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Have you met in person? Is this a paid service you're "talking to"?
    Hahaha :-P Yes, we have met in person, but haven't actually had sex yet. And no, it's not a paid service... a surprise itself in this day, when the majority of girls I've matched with online are prostitutes in disguise or "sugar babies" (which is basically a prostitute in disguise) :'-(


    Originally Posted by Tinydance'
    Well it's a difficult question because we just have no idea what she'd want....Why don't you ask her more questions? It's very difficult to know what people want sexually without actually knowing the person and especially without talking to them about it. I think communication is key in physical intimacy.
    Same here! lol I have no idea what she'd want, either... it's tricky in that position, I'm expected to guess correctly, with no real direction, without spoiling the mood.

    We've had a few sexual conversations, but she gets shy and embarrassed easily so I have to catch her at just the right time. She definitely has a bad-girl side that she's dying to explore! Which is awesome :-D But it's tough to get her to talk about things when she's not horny, and when she is then she doesn't want to answer questions, she wants me to take charge and make her submit. She had just recently told me her fantasy of being tied up and spanked, but got super embarrassed about it immediately!


    Thanks for the advice, @pippy longstocking and the rest! Any other suggestions, feel free to bring them on... I'll check back :-)

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