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    Mommyís boy?

    Is it weird that my boyfriend always calls his mom for anything? Even if itís for advice on what to do when sick? Heíll get sick and without even asking me for help or anything, he dials his mom and if itís just a cold, sheíll say go to the hospital but Iíll say I think medicine and rest will help but nope he listens to her and goes to the ER.. like what the heck.. lol. or if he has problems with work related stuff heíll call her for advice. I didnít really pay attention to it until recently when he called her for advice on spending his income money on a new truck. Maybe Iím over reacting? Weíve been together for over two years and we live together. Has anyone else gone through this and did yíall just brush it off? Iím not mad or anything! I just think itís odd lol


    When I get sick I donít go to the hospital or call my mom, I go to Walmart and get medicine and rest lol sometimes my boyfriend will even call off work just for a cough/cold..

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    I think he may have issues and whilst there's nothing wrong with contacting his mum once in a while, he does seem to fit the bill for a mummy's boy as you put it.

    Does he phone her twice a day to chat?

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    Yes, maybe even more than twice

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    I don't think it's all that weird for anyone to ask their parents for advice about various decisions. It sounds a bit like the real issue here is that you seem to feel snubbed, left out, and disconnected. Your real question is "why didn't he ask me and why won't he listen to me instead?"

    The whole thing about running to the ER over a sniffle....eh.....realize that ultimately that's his personal decision regardless of what anyone says. It's how he reacts to being sick - over the top. It's not something you should take personally and not a battle to pick with a person. Could be worse, really, he could be dying and refusing medical help. The fact that he'll run to the doctors is really no skin off your back, so don't get involved or take it personally. What you would do is YOUR business, what he does is HIS business when it comes to things like that.

    Same goes for buying a car. You might be dating and living together, BUT....how he spends his money and what major purchases he decides on is really none of your business. You aren't his wife and these aren't your combined finances being spent.

    A better thing to look at as a gauge is how does he treat you where mutual life decisions are actually required - day to day living with each other, bills, chores, etc. Is he considerate and responsive to you or not? If not, then you might have a problem. If yes, then don't pick fights where you don't need to.

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    Thank you!! You made me look at it way differently, I appreciate it

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    I don't understand why so many people live in this world where "if this is the way i do it.. everybody else must do it the same way." What is this all about?
    So while you may not have this type of relationship with YOUR parents, or you approach things a certain way - that doesn't mean that's the "only and right way." This is why dating is about discovering COMPATIBILITY.

    Although i do think your bf's actions are rare, i don't see why it's an absolute issue without knowing more about the guy. Maybe his parents are very smart and supportive people and give TERRIFIC advice. Maybe tha'ts what they do for their professions. (My parents ar in the medical field so it's not uncommon for medical questions to go to them. Just like my brother and I are both in IT so my parents always come to us for computer questions. Does that make my family weird? I don't think so.)

    let's get this straight. He's known you 2 YEARS. He's nkown his parents EERY YEAR OF HIS LIFE (If you guys are 25 yrs old or more, that means he's known his parents for over 25 years!) Who would you go get advice from .. a person you've known 2 yrs or 25 yrs? Why is this so weird?

    If it's not for you. then leave him. You're not compatible. But certainly no need to cut down on his character over it. That's just silly and arrogant.

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    Definitely not going to leave him for that lol but thank you for your input!! I appreciate it. You are right, I would get advice from someone Iíve known longer! Iím not mad or upset over it I just wanted to see if anybody else can relate. Iíll brush it off!! Thank you

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    Originally Posted by jaqueline24
    sometimes my boyfriend will even call off work just for a cough/cold..
    I certainly hope he does. With respect to and the exception of those who don't get the benefit of paid sick days and for whom making rent or feeding their kids relies on each an every hour of pay, one of my absolute biggest pet peeves is people showing up sick. I wish I could fit on two hands the amount of times I've caught a full-on flu because a coworker shows up thinking it's just a cough or cold and, whether it's a pride thing to soldier on or out of a naive benevolence thinking they're making my life easier not packing onto my load, come in anyway.

    Regardless, he calls his mom twice a day. Pretty much everything he goes to her about are things I'd have no reason to suspect you're more experienced in or aware of than she is at her age. It'd be another thing if you're a veterinarian and she was a hair stylist, yet he's calling her for advice on Chocolat's eye boogers. Personally, I'm the worst in the world when it comes to phoning home while my wife talks to her mom once a day, maybe twice on weekends. I've never thought anything of it.

    Add that with the fact I think it was like last week you admitted to making out with another dude, and I think you should consider getting used to the fact he's gonna have more reason than ever to refer to her more than you for quite a while.

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    I think that it is ridiculous to go to the hospital for a cold. There is nothing they can do. People that do this, cause longer delays in the ER, for this who really need help.

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    Thatís true. I think youíre right better safe than sorry and getting his coworkers sick too. And about the other guy part, that is also probably true too! Itís been like this for a while though but I can see itís stupid to get bugged by it

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