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Thread: Could he be lying about how he feels about me?

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    Why are you searching for things to be upset about?

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    you are misunderstnding... when guys say "did you do somethign special" that means something out of the ordinary, unexpected.
    having a nice romantic dinner and saying i love you to your gf on valentine's day is not out of the ordinary or unexpected.

    it's a bit concerning though.. that you expect your man to "shout it out from the rooftops" for you. that's a bit unhealthy expectations you're putting on the bf.
    that stuff happens in the movies.. not real life. and here is a life tip you will want to never forget. ANY GUY who goes to a rooftop to scream and proclaim their love for you for allto hear? RUN AWAY FROM HIM. He's a bad apple!

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    I understand it's possible that I may be reading way too much into this. That's why I'm here asking for advice instead of bringing it up to him. I guess I just felt like since it IS his best friend and this IS his first relationship, he'd have had a better response bc I thought we had a great day. I obviously don't expect him to literally be screaming it from the rooftops. But would a LITTLE emotion or acknowledgment hurt? THAT'S what bothers me the most. I felt like it meant more to me than him.

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    Originally Posted by alexa5207
    I understand it's possible that I may be reading way too much into this. That's why I'm here asking for advice instead of bringing it up to him. I guess I just felt like since it IS his best friend and this IS his first relationship, he'd have had a better response bc I thought we had a great day. I obviously don't expect him to literally be screaming it from the rooftops. But would a LITTLE emotion or acknowledgment hurt? THAT'S what bothers me the most. I felt like it meant more to me than him.
    Acknowledgement to WHOM? Random people on the Internet? Why is that so important to you?

    You seriously think he's been lying about how he feels about you for a year just because he didn't post "GIRLFRIEND AND I HAD AN ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS VALENTINE'S DAY! I LOVE LOVE LOVE HER!!!!!" on freaking Facebook???!!!

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    Yes. Bc it was directly to his best friend. Not random people.

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    Originally Posted by alexa5207
    Yes. Bc it was directly to his best friend. Not random people.
    So again, why should he brag to his friend? Maybe he was being kind to his friend because his friend was having problems. Maybe he simply didn't feel like bragging because he is not the type to.

    What's concerning is that you are taking this and making it about yourself and trying to create this whole scenario where your bf must be lying to you for months because he didn't brag to his friend. You are literally diving off the deep end without cause. What is actually going on with you personally that you are acting like this?

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    Also, I asked this same question on quora and people said that he's just lying to get what he wants and that I should run. So I'm a little confused.

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    Originally Posted by alexa5207
    Also, I asked this same question on quora and people said that he's just lying to get what he wants and that I should run. So I'm a little confused.
    Really? You've been together for a year! This would maybe make sense if your third date was v-day, he wanted to get into your panties that day and had left you immediately after. I mean how are you not understanding how absurd your attitude is. Anyone telling that he only wanted one thing and to run either doesn't know that a year later you are still in a relationship or are simply messing with you because you really are trying to create some pretty imaginative drama.

    Are you bored? Out of work? Do you often try to create drama? What's causing this behavior?

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    I know I tend to personalize a lot of his behaviors but a lot of times, I can't help it. I do suffer from OCD and it is absolute torture bc I obsess about every thing he says and does. Most of the time I can't differentiate as to whether or not I'm reading too much into things or if they're actually red flags. I hate that I can't trust my own judgement bc I've been hurt so much before. It doesn't help that he's lied to me in the past. We've talked about it and he's apologized and said he didn't lie with any malice but just that he gets afraid of my reactions. I'm trying to work on not blowing up at him and leaving room for him to mess up at times bc he's human and not perfect, as he puts it. And neither am I. So I don't know. I guess that's pretty much the gist of it.

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    Are you getting therapy or any kind of treatment?

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