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    Yes, he has had past relationships. Reminds me of them from time to time.

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    You are right. Thanks for saying it like it is. I don't belong with him.

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    You are right. It's my own fault for letting this go on for 6 months. I'm done.

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    If he will not speak up and explain why he is acting this way towards you then you have to take his actions as the hard truth.

    Lesson learned for the next time right?

    I am sure you will find a man that is willing to be in a real relationship once you stop wasting your time on this guy.

    Lost

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    Originally Posted by Hollywould
    I don't know. Never intimate but sometimes we sleep in the same bed. He likes for me to touch him but he will not touch me.
    You need to be done with this. I am sorry, but he does not have any romantic feelings for you.

    Stop torturing yourself and end this 'relationship.' I would find it so devaluing and frustrating.

    You need to cut contact, as you have feelings for him. Nothing will change.

    Expect a lot more from men in the future. This should have stopped a long time ago.

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    Originally Posted by Hollywould
    I refuse to let my self esteem be affected. He constantly tells me that I look/aged better than most of our friends. He drinks a lot and gets angry over little things. I still love him.
    He sounds like a real prize. I also think you should address why you got involved with any of this.

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    You are wasting your time if he's an angry alcoholic with ED (very common in alcoholics). Why stick around for all the rejection because he says you 'look younger", but pushes you away?
    Originally Posted by Hollywould
    Never intimate but sometimes we sleep in the same bed. He likes for me to touch him but he will not touch me.He drinks a lot and gets angry over little things. I still love him.

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    he's not interested or "unavailable" mentally/emotionally.
    that or he's being this way as part of a "scheme" or "game" or whatver to reel you in the way he wants things to be.

    whatever of those it is doesn't matter.. walk away.. and now.

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    Originally Posted by Hollywould
    You are telling me what I wish wasn't true - but it is. I'll stop hanging out because my feelings are much stronger than his. Mark my word - I'll tell him that I'm done and he will pull me back in with minor affection like before.
    Pfffft to that ^^^

    I agree with Katrina... You act as if you have no will of your own. All you have to do is say what you offer me is not enough so I wish you luck in your relationships but please don't contact me again. How old are you?

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    Originally Posted by Hollywould
    Hi folks. I have been "dating" a man from high school for 6 months. I'm in my mid-fifties. In that time we have spent ALOT of time together because we have similar interests. I have grown to love him and I tell him often. He tells me that he loves me too. The relationship is progressing at a very slow pace which is ok but he seldom shows any affection towards me. I want to kiss him he pulls away. If I touch him in a way that could lead to intimacy he questions my motives and pulls away. He won't let me touch him! He seldom touches me. When I question him about it he twists things in such a way that I feel like a . Wanting to be intimate with someone you love after 6 months is normal and human. I'm ready to end this situation but want to know what you all think.
    If I were in this situation, I would end it.

    You are on different pages when it comes to intimacy and affection. I don't have a crystal ball, but I would bet against such a mismatch.

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