Ghosting?

After weeks of phone calls and texts I finally went on a date with a guy back in April, I thought it went well. He texts me the next day saying the same and then nothing, I did message him to ask if he was ok, but then again nothing so I deleted him and got on with life. But this mornig he texts me at 7:45am

"Hi ******* how are you? I know this text is out of the blue I just had a lot of family stuff going on way back x"

Do I respond?

Same way he did to you...nothing. He obviously hit a dry spell or stopped dated whoever he ghosted to you for so don't reward his rudeness with a reply.

-and then nothing,

-I did message him to ask if he was ok, but then again nothing

I wouldn't respond. Family 'stuff' for almost a year? Give me a break.

Let me guess...he choose another girl over you (even if you didn't know it), things didn't work out with her, so now he goes back to door number two.

He's an ass, he didn't even have manners. Don't waste your time.

No......................

I wouldn't bother responding.

I wouldn’t respond. He’s shown his true colours.

Don't worry Guys, I haven't, I found pics of him and his new GF posted yesterday on his facebook...What an idiot!

Don't worry Guys, I haven't, I found pics of him and his new GF posted yesterday on his facebook...What an idiot!

Good call, dizzy.

Wow, texting you while he has a gf? Sounds like a prize.

Well there you go, he does and probably did have another gf back when you went out with him. Block and delete and move on.

NOPE.

When someone shows you who they are believe them.

If he had said, hey.. I met someone else, or hey I took a break from dating, ok, because its ok for people to change their minds and want to try again...but dropping off the map for family issues...unless they were all taken over in a zombie apocalypse he could spend 15 seconds to text you, if he cant be honest and frank with you the odds of it happening again are pretty high.

Completely dropping off the map is not okay. The thing is, I would be curious and I'd entertain chatting, meeting...the second time rarely fares better than the first, so it's really just a situation of curiosity and not investing it it. To each his own, but I don't recommend it. The best course of action would be to ignore. There's a reason things didn't kick off in round one, and doubtful it will be different on round two. The latest turn of events? Facebook relationship abounds? No and no. He's monkey-branching and cheating. This is maddening entertainment, however, and part of me wants you to toy with him, respond, but this means you would also be toying with his girlfriend, and that is not cool...no response is how you handle this. But what a good laugh over the absurdity of it all!

Similar thing happened to me last year (2017), around Xmas. On Xmas day, I got a "Hi LHGirl, How's your Xmas?" Since I had long ago deleted his number, and I didn't recognize it, I wrote back, "Can I ask who this is?" and he wrote back "Greg". Which I then ignored.

Why do they do this? I'm not bothered as I wasn't that into him after my disaster last Christmas. But why when they already have a Gf, I just don't get it?

Because they have no moral compass and only care about themselves.

His Gf is absolutely stunning and 10 years younger? lol

His Gf is absolutely stunning and 10 years younger? lol

Maybe he was just looking for his ego to be stroked, who knows.

But seriously, this guy has no morals.

Glad you didn’t respond to him!

He's probably using you to make her jealous. He wants you to text him back, so she can get all jealous and act like you're stalking him.

Tell you what: Block him from all access, so you can't even view him anymore. Wipe your hands of this creep.

I wouldn't respond. Family 'stuff' for almost a year? Give me a break.

I didn't understand it was during a year. But anyway don't contact him no more.

His Gf is absolutely stunning and 10 years younger? lol

That doesn't mean much when it comes to guys like this.

😱👎🐍🤡😝💩🤢💣🚩👇

I found pics of him and his new GF posted yesterday on his facebook...What an idiot!

It's hard to say to a person who is interested in you "sorry I met someone else". I've had to do it in the past, and it's awkward and anxiety provoking because you just don't want to hurt another person so telling a white lie tends to be easier.

He probably met her around the same time he was dating you, they hit it off and he was off the market. Rather than being honest with you he dodged. Doesn't make him an ahole, just someone who avoids confrontation with dishonesty. You'd be surprised how many are like that. Doesn't make it right, just makes it common.

Ummm he hit her up at the same time she saw the photos...Unless he got into a relationship and posted about it mere hours after texting her....

I had this happen to me. I got ghosted and the exact same thing happened after a year I got a text. I found out she came back after a few failed attempts to start relationships with other people and came back to me.

Ive also had other contact me when they were in relationships already. I believe they do this to check if you`re still available. A sort of ego boost or because theyre not getting he attention they need from their other half.

I mean have you not ever wondered what happened to someone you liked? You tried to get back in touch with? That's human curiosity for you.

After weeks of phone calls and texts I finally went on a date with a guy back in April, I thought it went well. He texts me the next day saying the same and then nothing, I did message him to ask if he was ok, but then again nothing so I deleted him and got on with life. But this mornig he texts me at 7:45am

 

"Hi ******* how are you? I know this text is out of the blue I just had a lot of family stuff going on way back x"

 

Do I respond?

No you do not respond. You weren't a priority then, and you won't be know.

A lot of stuff = better options

Things didn't turn out on his A list, so they are checking their B list until their luck improves.