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Thread: 75% My Husbands Family is truly evil and its causing me to go into a depression!

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    Wiseman do you always dig up old posts and re post them for everyone to see? Whatís your actual motive with this? I feel literally judged

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    The response differs if you are with someone else or if this is the same guy/same family but you are simply calling him fiance, ex fiance, husband, etc. Judged about what?

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    Looks like Iím not alone in feeling this way!

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    Your posting history is relevant to advice.

    And I asked because it seemed relevant

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    All you can do is avoid them.

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    Originally Posted by Starrdeal1
    I have the type of energy that when I meet someone I sadly can see their intentions before they even speak. I feel she has some kind of intuitive energy as well and didn't like me reading her.
    You don't. She doesn't.

    For those of you who don't believe in that type of gift/curse take that with a grain of salt.
    I will, and I'll take the rest of the thread with one as well.

    I also wear my emotions on my sleeve and my face.
    This woman has been evil and a snake to me since the first day I met her.
    So you've regarded this woman as "evil" and a "snake" from day one, admit yourself that you wear your emotions on a sleeve, yet you're perplexed she picked up the "vibe?"

    Yeah, sorry. It's hard to imagine some lady just going around family parties blasting all the husbands with star power from her panties and dropping pencils all over the carpet in front of folks. Doesn't really matter if you found Samantha to gossip to and agree with about her. The fact you're chit-chatting with folks (never mind your husband's mother-- really??) behind her back at all about how much of a conniving snake she is and her "see through clothing" means you'd be in great company with her, assuming any accuracy to your account.

    Honestly, at the very worst, it doesn't sound like you're much of a victim at all here, and that she simply outplayed you in your territory grab. But just as likely, if not more so, it could be she's from day one been reacting to Miss Cleo "wearing her emotions on her sleeve" and glaring at her like she's vile, conniving, a snake, and whatever other dehumanizing descriptors you'd like to throw in there.

    I don't know what advice you're seeking. You're not Bill Paxton (PBUH) and this ain't Frailty. If you want to believe the devil has cursed you with this "truly evil" family and this "snake" of a sister-in-law, that's your prerogative. But it's not a context we can responsibly center advice on. I'd talk to your priest about snakes and your apparent super powers.

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    Originally Posted by j.man
    You don't. She doesn't.

    I will, and I'll take the rest of the thread with one as well.


    So you've regarded this woman as "evil" and a "snake" from day one, admit yourself that you wear your emotions on a sleeve, yet you're perplexed she picked up the "vibe?"

    Yeah, sorry. It's hard to imagine some lady just going around family parties blasting all the husbands with star power from her panties and dropping pencils all over the carpet in front of folks. Doesn't really matter if you found Samantha to gossip to and agree with about her. The fact you're chit-chatting with folks (never mind your husband's mother-- really??) behind her back at all about how much of a conniving snake she is and her "see through clothing" means you'd be in great company with her, assuming any accuracy to your account.

    Honestly, at the very worst, it doesn't sound like you're much of a victim at all here, and that she simply outplayed you in your territory grab. But just as likely, if not more so, it could be she's from day one been reacting to Miss Cleo "wearing her emotions on her sleeve" and glaring at her like she's vile, conniving, a snake, and whatever other dehumanizing descriptors you'd like to throw in there.

    I don't know what advice you're seeking. You're not Bill Paxton (PBUH) and this ain't Frailty. If you want to believe the devil has cursed you with this "truly evil" family and this "snake" of a sister-in-law, that's your prerogative. But it's not a context we can responsibly center advice on. I'd talk to your priest about snakes and your apparent super powers.
    I second this, not sure what advice that can be given, if you truly believe your husbands family is evil and youre a spiritual person, well you get away from the evil, very easy solution, I think thats like a rule even, you stay away from evil.

    If youre one with a flare for dramatics and extremes, well, this board can serve as your echo chamber but thats about it. Theres no advice to be given.

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    Originally Posted by Starrdeal1
    Before counseling I saw no hope. The couple who counseled us saved our entire relationship. I have set boundaries . Major ones. What Iím asking is if anyone else has dealt with In law issues like this . I need to know how to not allow this to hurt me. She irritates me so badly and it makes me Ill.
    We've all dealt with issues like this and it all starts with taking inventory of your own attitudes and behaviors. Blaming everyone else without ever looking at what your part in this will only give your power away to them.

    If you want to take your power back, you need to take responsibility for your part and change what you are doing. Treat her as you would want to be treated. You have judged her without ever getting to know her... you have gossiped about her behind her back with your husbands family... both things you have said you get very hurt by when she does that to you. There is nothing you can do about the fact that she is flirting with your husband except talk to her and him about it and then let it go... she will change it or she won't. There is nothing you can do about the fact that his family doesn't like you right now except look at your part and stop spending time with them until this passes. The only thing you can change is you.

    P.S. I do believe in the power of intuition however I don't believe we were gifted with this power so it could be used as a way to determine who someone is before ever getting to know them.

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    I have distanced myself to outrageous in law behavior, but continually assess my own reactions first. In the end, I chose to be distant, though willing to help if called. Whatever happens, be tactfully respectful when spoken to, and pick and choose your battles. It will rub off on them.

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    All of you are drama. You were also talking about her. You are just as bad!

    You're upset because someone said you didn't break boxes. Really! You need to make your life more full!

    Something tells me that you have a problem with a lot of folks!

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