Hickeys

I've like this lad for over a year and we are finally a couple. We spend most of our time with each other and not to sound weird he makes me happy but one day we were watching a film and he gave ma a hickey and my mam saw it and told my dad!?... I don't get why they are angry I feel like such a bad person

Tell him to stop.

You are not bad person. They just don’t want you covered in marks. Making out also leads to making babies which your folks don’t want to happen.

When he was sucking on your neck so hard that it broke blood vessels below your skin and caused them to bleed internally did it hurt? Did he ask you if it was ok to leave a big red mark on your skin and damage your blood vessels or did he just go for it because he felt like it? Leaving your parents aside for the moment, how do YOU feel about him doing this to you?

How old are you?

Hickeys are disgusting and in very bad taste. They look horrible and can actually be dangerous.

Bottom line is, don't let him suck on your neck.

https://www.bustle.com/articles/82101-are-hickeys-dangerous-6-things-you-didnt-know-about-love-bites-because-these-bruises-leave-scars

As above, making hickeys can lead to making babies, no wonder your parents are upset!

How old are you?

im 14 and 15 in 3 months, this situation has happened before and I will get that's why they are angry. But to be Fairly honest I dosnt wnat him to he didn't bother to ask and if I stopped him I thought he'd stop loving me ! Is that a bad thing ?

But for a 14 year old I have a lot of depression I have stopped eating sleeping. And my anxiety is getting worse I havnt spoke to anyone about this😓

Ah now I know why they are angry. Lucky they don’t heave him out the door. Does your school have a counselor?

Yes they do but not a very good one.

Yes they do but not a very good one.

How so?

.....

Yeah but not a very good one

They listen big nothing seems to change or help

How is the counselor not good?

Yeah but not a very good one

They listen big nothing seems to change or help

Are you participating in the suggestions?

For my anxiety some, but there's nothing they can do for not eating or sleeping. And I feel like I'm making it worse cause I never told the boy who gave me a hickey to stop

The not sleeping and eating are part and parcel with anxiety however better sleeping and eating greatly reduce anxiety. Look up good bedtime routines and make things you love to eat.

You are not a bad person. Not at all. You are a teenager learning who you are.

Some parts of me feel like if i tell anyone else this they won't understand how I feel on a day to day Basis. And knowing I carnt talk to my mam and dad like this is worser pain.

Some parts of me feel like if i tell anyone else this they won't understand how I feel on a day to day Basis. And knowing I carnt talk to my mam and dad like this is worser pain.

Why can’t you talk to them? They love you I am sure and don’t want you in pain. They were teenagers once like we all were. It is a difficult time to be sure.

My mam she's not been then meet mam she's done horrible things that if I do tell u, you would be mind blown! But I've told the police and solcial workers seems like everything I do isn't the right decision.

Is there other family you can live with?

My sisters I have 3, jade (29) but she has moved further and has got her kids took of her

Danielle (28) who has 4 kids and currently pregnant

Jasmine (24) with 2 kids and a alcoholic problem

All of them have had abusing boyfriends. But jade had one who's boyfriend was on the pedophile register list

Jades 3 kids got put into my mams care for 3 years and my dad hit one of them now they are in foster care and I havnt seen them in a full year, I have a twin brother who is currently on adhd tablets and sleeping tablets. I mean for a 14 year old I've dealt with a lot.

And aunts or grandparents?