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Thread: Too much to ask?

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    Yes I liked him but he was pathetic.

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    Why do I still want to hear from someone so pathetic I have no idea.

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    Why was he pathetic?

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    I agree.

    You keep doing this too, unless its the same guy from November.

    You gotta take responsibility for yourself eventually, stop doing things that are hurting you emotionally and telling yourself you're fine. I say this with absolutely no disrespect but it just seems like you're doing this to yourself. You keep letting your anxiety run the show. So you push these men away in a panic and when they dont sooth your anxiety, its magnified. And if they do sooth your anxiety youre kinda like 'ok what now?'

    This is just my personal opinion, but I think if you want to be successful in dating you have to work on yourself, we attract what we put out, if youre showing anxious, dramatic, fearful and distrust, it will push people away.

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    You get emotionally over invested in people. You only went out five times. You should not have raised the topic. You need to slow your roll.

    You also should not have sent the text. His actions were all you needed.

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    As soon as this guy began to flake, not respond, say he was busy, I would have backed-off completely and walked away. Wouldn’t have looked back.

    Expecting any sort of explanation from someone who acts this way is too much to ask, unfortunately.

    I understand why you feel hurt, I really do.

    But his flaking, silence, etc., is all you really needed to know - it speaks volumes.

    Texting him after the fact and wanting some sort of closure, explanation (however you want to phrase it), is a complete and utter waste of your time and energy.

    If you ever find yourself in a situation like this again, just walk away.

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    Originally Posted by shineyboot

    I told him I need someone who shows me a bit more interest.

    I got nothing in response. Weeks go by, nothing.

    Today I texted him (I know probably shouldn't have) just a 'smoothing over text' as I work with him and will see him in January. I said I enjoyed the times, the communication wasn't all that and neither of us really seemed that keen so I wanted to put my time into other things.

    Again nothing.

    Is it too much to ask just for a 'thanks but bye' text, I work with the man.

    It seems quite rude to me.
    Given what you texted, I don't think it was rude at all.

    What did you expect him to say, both those texts were very negative, essentially rejecting him.

    I don't know of any man who would have responded and your second text was competely unnecessary, you already spoke your piece in your first.

    Not saying you weren't right to reject, clearly he was not interested either, but those texts were overkill of what was already obvious, and frankly imo did not require a response.
    Last edited by katrina1980; 12-29-2018 at 06:15 PM.

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    Originally Posted by milly007
    As soon as this guy began to flake, not respond, say he was busy, I would have backed-off completely and walked away. Wouldn’t have looked back.

    But his flaking, silence, etc., is all you really needed to know - it speaks volumes.

    If you ever find yourself in a situation like this again, just walk away.
    Moving forward, next time you date a man who displays same flakey behavior, this ^^ would be the correct response.

    Your silence sends a much stronger message than your two texts did.
    Last edited by katrina1980; 12-29-2018 at 06:12 PM.

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    I completely agree with you both but milly

    As soon as this guy began to flake, not respond, say he was busy, I would have backed-off completely and walked away. Wouldn’t have looked back.
    Practice what you preach girlfriend.

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    Originally Posted by figureitout23
    I completely agree with you both but milly



    Practice what you preach girlfriend.
    Not sure what you mean, FIO?

    Please clarify

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