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    Could i get her back? Needing advice

    So i met this girl on social media which was my gf now is my ex. She struggles with depression and anxiety and so on and so am i. Anyways we starting to get to know each other and i promised her that i will be there for her to support her. Few months later i asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend and we started dated, things was fine at the beginning. The thing is there was a guy she was talking to she knew him before we met, the thing is this guy is dangerous he first was nice to her but then he said he would come to her house and have sex with her. He is a hacker because he knew where she lived he has her house address. But even during the time when we were dating i told her to block him because all he would do is make her feel bad most of the times but she didn't block him. Anyways few months later when i knew about the story that he knows where she lives i told her to block him i mean how could she not think that he is dangerous? He kept sms her and she blocked him everytime. Then after few months later me and my ex brokeup but i still decided to be friends so i could support her. Few days ago she did something stupid she even said "i did something stupid", which was to answer his texts again. I got mad at her and told her that i am not gonna be part of your life anymore and that i am tired of trying to help her but then she do stupid things, she begged me to stay but i told her we should stop talking. Few hours later i came to apologize she said i broke her heart and that she wants me but can't have me. We we're on a long distance relationship we dated for 9 months but we we're friends for 1 year and now she have blocked me on whatsapp and we can't talk anymore. I need an advice so if anyone could help me then thank you

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    You need to stay away from all of this. She gets something out of staying in contact with him, she is not a helpless victim. She was cheating on you. Sounds like she has strong feelings for him. Wake up!

    Block and delete this girl on everything. She is not your friend, nor is she trustworthy.

    How often did you see one another?
    Last edited by Hollyj; 12-29-2018 at 01:01 PM.

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    You need to drop her. She is not being honest about her true involvement with her "hacker."

    My guess is that she gave him her address and lied to you about it, and she likes him so she keeps in contact with him. She thus doesn't view him as dangerous. Now she is immaturely turning it on you since you rightfully can't accept being friends with her when she keeps this supposed hacker in her orbit.

    Have you ever met her in person? How old are you both?

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    How many times have you dated in person? Not over Skype but actually in person?

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    Before we met she used to talk with him he was nice with her at first but then he wanted to rape her that's what she said to me and also he insulted her alot and called with bad names like s*** , b**** . We never met in person but we made video calls on whatsapp and honestly i tried my best to make her happy but she was always sad

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    I asked her if she ever liked him in a couples way she never did as she said. We always talked on the phone but never met in person

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    Why don't you date girls you can actually see in person?

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    end this nonsense now and meet a girl in 'real life'

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    Unfortunately, a relationship is largely fantasy-based until you are able to spend some quality time together in person. You will never know if you had real chemistry with her or not never having met her, etc. There are ways to find someone's address online without being a hacker, you just need to know which sites to frequent. Regardless, this woman sounds like she struggles with her mental health and thus was getting something out of keeping this guy around. My guess is she fancies him on some level and/or is addicted to trying to win his validation.

    None of this bodes well for you. I think you should allow her to keep you blocked and try to move on with your life.

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    You didn't date.

    Find a local girl, so that you can have a real relationship.

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