melodysparks Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 Hey! I have a new boyfriend and things are going really well. I think I could love him soon. Do we need to be fb official? This seems silly, but I’m in my own head a lot about it. Is this important, or can I just wait until we are more serious, like engaged or something? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 How long have you been dating? What are the privacy setting on your social media? Is it just for people/contacts you know or is it public? If you are not legally divorced it would be best to keep your dating life off the internet. Particularly if it is contentious/abusive replete with restraining orders etc. Keep a low profile and keep your business to yourself. No. You need to communicate about your expectations, such as dating exclusively. Have you discussed the terms expectations in person? That is all that matters. Do not use social media broadcasting in the early stages of dating in an attempt to prove to yourself or anyone else that you've "moved on". I have a new boyfriend and things are going really well.Do we need to be fb official? Link to comment
Zippy2000 Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 Id probably wait. Don't change your status too soon. I mean how many times have you seen people go from In a relationship to single in a matter of days. Why not wait until at least 6 months or till a year or if brings it up. I mean why change it so soon. Link to comment
Keyman Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 I stopped changing my fb status years ago when I realised that I was more interested in chasing the status than actually chasing a good relationship. And changing statuses is just attention seeking behvious, like you have a new toy and just have to tell absolutely everyone. These days, I'd rather post a profile pic with myself and the lady than change my status, let people ask rather than push it in their faces. Then, maybe after 6 months or a year, change the status once everyone already knows. Link to comment
melodysparks Posted December 27, 2018 Author Share Posted December 27, 2018 We have discussed that we are exclusive and we are calling each other bf/gf. I have zero contact with my ex and there are no restraining orders. My profile is very private, and I’ve blocked everyone that knows him. This is not to send a message to him. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 I'm with Keyman, slow down! What's the rush? Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 Myself I wouldn't bother ..BUT ...I am going to put that down to my age .....so what I say is , why worry about facebook , just enjoy your relationship . Also it might be with me , that I have always been single for my facebook life ..so these things never enter my head . Link to comment
DaisyMayPorter Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 I read your last thread. Maybe you should be alone for awhile instead of jumping into a new relationship. You were in an abusive relationship. I myself was in an emotionally abusive relationship and it takes awhile to get over it. Didn’t you just file for divorce in September? Link to comment
melodysparks Posted December 27, 2018 Author Share Posted December 27, 2018 Filed in August, but have been separated since February. I am not going to wait to date. I’m happy. Link to comment
figureitout23 Posted December 28, 2018 Share Posted December 28, 2018 I stopped changing my fb status years ago when I realised that I was more interested in chasing the status than actually chasing a good relationship. And changing statuses is just attention seeking behvious, like you have a new toy and just have to tell absolutely everyone. These days, I'd rather post a profile pic with myself and the lady than change my status, let people ask rather than push it in their faces. Then, maybe after 6 months or a year, change the status once everyone already knows. I like this. Link to comment
j.man Posted December 28, 2018 Share Posted December 28, 2018 I'm honestly surprised the hype over facebook relationship statuses is still a thing. I had an account back when you needed a university email, and it was maybe when it first started getting "mainstream" popular after 2008+ that it was a big deal to see someone in a new relationship or changing their status to "single." But I can't remember the last time my relationship status has been public or when I've seen a friend who could reliably carry a relationship for more than three months announcing they're "in a relationship." Fair play if it matters to you personally, but I'd try not to attribute an objective value to it. Now my wife did change her status when we got engaged and then married, more because she's got friends and former classmates from three different universities and felt it was easier than calling and texting everyone about it. I "accepted" it being displayed on my timeline, but it's not in my info. I wouldn't consider myself as jaded as many on these forums when it comes to social media, but I have come to be less and less inclined to treat my profile as personally as I may have in the past. Link to comment
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