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Thread: What do younger women look for in an older guy?

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    "Older, women want younger men."
    "Not true. The majority of older women want a mature man who is a decent man. That typically is someone around their own age."

    I agree. We are not all cougars! Most are not.
    Right. I'm an "older woman" (50's), and I want someone my age group.

    To answer your thread question: What do younger woman want? From a much older guy? Money. They want money. Have a lot? Then you should have no trouble.

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    First I'd ask what is your starting point here? What have you done and tried so far to get yourself out there and engage women?

    I wouldn't place even more limits on yourself ! Like only honing in on younger. And it doesn't seem to stem by preference that, only fear. So aim to cast a wide net. If you try and tailor to young, you will lose other opportunities which might be really great for you.

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    Originally Posted by BobbyJones
    I've posted before about my battles to get the opposite sex to even acknowledge I exist. Aside from having hang-ups about my appearance, height, career, status and social skills, I'm a 41 year old virgin with OCD problems. Quite the catch I hear you say! Now after a few positive messages on here, in amongst the negative, I do for some reason still want to at least try and get myself a girlfriend. After much consideration though, I think that the only way I can muster up the confidence to even try is with a much younger woman, like early 20s. I think beyond that her experience and confidence will eclipse mine by simply too much. I'll be intimidated, she'll see me crumbling before her, it'll be a mess. I have nothing those women would want. Now the *one* thing I have going for me, aside from a wicked self-deprecating sense of humour, is that whilst I may be ugly, I most definitely don't look my age, and could maybe even pass as 7 or 8 years younger on a good day. I'm not suggesting I lie or try to fool anyone, merely pointing out that just maybe it won't make the age gap quite as big a thing in some women's eyes. So what are people's thoughts - hands off you're sending the cops over, get myself sorted and stick to my own age, give up altogether I missed the boat long ago, or play it a certain way (which I have no idea about btw) and hopefully meet some nice younger woman (even if it's one who just hasn't seen enough of the world yet to know she can do a lot better!)? Thank you for reading.
    Oh my goodness.

    This is so wrong on so many levels.

    Firstly, 41 isn't even old.

    However, a 41 year old trying to date girls who are young enough to be his daughters? Is only going to attract derision and scorn.

    Yes, there are a *few* young girls who would date an older man if he was rich. But those girls would not be relationship material. They would be gold diggers, they would use you and laugh at you behind your back, and then go cheat with a guy their own age.

    As for what women want?

    - physical attraction
    - fun company
    - emotional support
    - attention and admiration

    I hate to be harsh but it is extremely unlikely that you are going to be what a 22 year old girl considers physically attractive when you are the same age as her dad. It is unlikely that she will find you particularly fun to hang out with when you are so much older than her friends and her friends partners, and when you will undoubtedly lack the youth and vigour to keep up with them physically.

    Find a woman your own age.

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    Thanks, Wiseman2. I've always been hesitant with dating apps because of the photo aspect. In the early early days of free sites online before photos were basically mandatory I tried and managed a few one-off dates, but honestly and I don't mean to sound too hard on myself, they just don't respond after I send a photo, it's as simple as that. It became a pattern, we'd chat then that damn elephant in the room...I couldn't delay it any longer, I send the pic and she's gone. How much more so now where profiles aren't even read before the photo is scrutinised :-(

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    OP, what are your interests?
    Hi, Hollyj. I watch a lot of sport and movies on my own. I do play snooker (but 70 year old tipsy men aren't my thing) and tennis. Tennis is by far the most promising avenue, but in the few times I've played doubles with women they've all been either taken or won't take their eyes off the tall handsome guys on the next court. I tried ballroom dancing but the height thing got me, it was too embarrassing having one woman in the class shorter than me, provided she took her heels off. I don't really know what other people my age do, the few guys I've kept in contact with from school and university are all married with kids. Not enough in common any more.

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    Originally Posted by BobbyJones
    Hi, Hollyj. I watch a lot of sport and movies on my own. I do play snooker (but 70 year old tipsy men aren't my thing) and tennis. Tennis is by far the most promising avenue, but in the few times I've played doubles with women they've all been either taken or won't take their eyes off the tall handsome guys on the next court. I tried ballroom dancing but the height thing got me, it was too embarrassing having one woman in the class shorter than me, provided she took her heels off. I don't really know what other people my age do, the few guys I've kept in contact with from school and university are all married with kids. Not enough in common any more.
    You seem to make a lot of excuses about why things arenít working. You are the only one that can change your destiny and you need to break down the walls you have built and overcome them.

    Dating for older folks is not easy at all. We have baggage, they have baggage... itís pretty easy to make excuses and to give up and be a martyr about it... the hard part is persevering through the feelings and working on ourselves .

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