confused994 Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 Posting for a friend: I started talking to this guy about 2 months ago on and off. Mostly sexual in nature but we are also friends and have been casual friends for several months. I’ve caught feelings and I shared that with him but he said he’s just looking for something casual right now He’s a bit older than me and I’m having trouble learning how to communicate as it’s been a while since I’ve entered this arena, I’m newly single. He travels for work so most of our communication is over text. I want to keep my cool and have the upper hand which I’ve already blew but I want to get it back and keep it. Even if things don’t work out with him I want to remain in control of my emotions not just with him but in the future with other men. Please give me tips on texting dos and donts and advice on how to remain admirable and not needy. Some specific techniques would be great especially from a mans point of view. We are talking about grown adult men not young and immature.TIA Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 Even if you are unhappily married it's hard to have the upper hand if it is just hooking up or sexting because it is what it is. I want to keep my cool and have the upper hand which I’ve already blew but I want to get it back and keep it. Even if things don’t work out with him I want to remain in control of my emotions not just with him but in the future with other men. Link to comment
confused994 Posted December 11, 2018 Author Share Posted December 11, 2018 Thanks a lot, I remember you- but this isn’t actually for me- it’s for my cousin. She’s in an oddly similar situation lol but I told her how helpful you all were to me. Also, I’ll let you know I cut off contact with that guy and things are great for me so far Link to comment
confused994 Posted December 11, 2018 Author Share Posted December 11, 2018 Notice I said I posted for a friend lol Link to comment
SherrySher Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 Oh right.."for a friend" Why is she not posting for herself? Link to comment
SherrySher Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 he said he’s just looking for something casual right now Believe him...he's just looking for a play thing right now. If your "friend" wants more, she's going to have to go to a different man who wants the same. This guy only want to mess around with no intentions or feelings. Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 Notice I said I posted for a friend lol This is gonna be confusing for people, why didn't you use "she" instead of "I"? You may have to keep reminding people it's not you. Link to comment
j.man Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 This is why I come to these forums. Link to comment
DanZee Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 Yeah, I agree with SherrySher. She should stop sexting this guy. He just wants sex. If she keeps this up, she'll wind the guy up and he'll be howling at her door like a cat in heat. And how much older are we talking about? Is this some sort of girlish infatuation? Link to comment
SherrySher Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 she'll wind the guy up and he'll be howling at her door like a cat in heat Every girls dream...lololol. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted December 11, 2018 Share Posted December 11, 2018 I’ve caught feelings and I shared that with him but he said he’s just looking for something casual right now You've caught feelings for him. It's too late for you (your cousin) to play it cool and be the good eff buddy now. You've got to keep it cool and be the indifferent buddy from the beginning. If you (your cousin) could handle what you're asking for advice on, you'd not need to be asking for advice and this thread wouldn't exist. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 This went from posting for a friend, to posting for a cousin. Hmmmm. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 Seems to be quite an epidemic of unhappily married women sexting their cheating husband's employees and enjoying junk pics from them who are asking for advice on how to send more enticing sexts...Whew sounds like a soap opera town . this isn’t actually for me- it’s for my cousin. She’s in an oddly similar situation. Notice I said I posted for a friend lol Link to comment
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