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    Anyone ever use a voice recorder, surveillance?

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    My cousin is having some issues in a new relationship, and shes pretty sure its done. But she wants to be sure as there is going to be a fair amount of money to be split and someone is going to lose a lot depending on how this goes.

    She is looking for a voice recorder that she can listen in to, kind of like a baby monitor so to speak... I figure someone on here probably has some experience with this. Has anyone ever done this?

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    How is there going to split if it's a new relationship and not a marriage?

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    Not to mention, in some places, this is illegal. My current state for instance allows voice recording as long as one person in the room consents. That person can be the one with the recording device, but that basically means you canít surveil people remotely

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    Are they married or just living together? Is she suspecting infidelity or is there abuse going? Does she suspect theft/scamming? If there is a crime going on, such as theft, abuse, etc. she needs to contact the police.

    If they are married she must contact an attorney asap. Many jurisdictions do not need "grounds" for divorce such as infidelity. Also, an attorney can advise her if what she wants to do is legal, admissible in court or even necessary. It would be unwise to bother with this unless she has a legal and valid reason to do so.
    Originally Posted by Rabican
    My cousin is having some issues in a new relationship, and shes pretty sure its done. But she wants to be sure as there is going to be a fair amount of money to be split and someone is going to lose a lot depending on how this goes.

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    It's difficult to make out what people are saying with a voice recorder. Something like a GoPro would provide video and audio and it might be better to actually see what's going on to make sure what you think is going on is actually going on. But really, if trust has broken down to this level, the relationship is probably over.

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    The best advice you can give your cousin is to speak with an experienced divorce lawyer about their rights and what they can and cannot do. In many states, a short term marriage may also mean that the parties will walk away only with what they brought into the marriage respectively. In some states, cheating doesn't entitle one party to money or any kind of disproportionate amount from the marriage. In many many states, for things like alimony to kick in, the marriage had to have lasted for many years, otherwise it's not applicable. Again, cousin needs to get proper legal advice for the jurisdiction they are in and not play amateur detective.

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    Originally Posted by Annia
    How is there going to split if it's a new relationship and not a marriage?
    They bought a house together but its in her name... and then he went and f*&$*ed up... so if she sells the house they are not going to get back what they put into it and hes likely going to be the one to take the loss.

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    Originally Posted by Rabican
    They bought a house together but its in her name... and then he went and f*&$*ed up... so if she sells the house they are not going to get back what they put into it and hes likely going to be the one to take the loss.
    If itís in her name, itíll be her loss probably.

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    Originally Posted by Rabican
    They bought a house together but its in her name... and then he went and f*&$*ed up... so if she sells the house they are not going to get back what they put into it and hes likely going to be the one to take the loss.
    In that case she needs to talk to a real estate lawyer and find out her actual rights, whether or not she has to sell, whether they can buy each other out, etc. Also, if you are all in FL, then clandestine recordings are illegal, inadmissible in court and in a real estate situation, have no relevance anyway. You are talking property rights only. Who cheated, etc. doesn't matter. Again, don't play amateur detective, get actual legal advice and go about things properly so you don't burn yourselves.

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    Sounds like she's the one who ****ed up buying a house for the benefit of a new relationship. Is the mortgage solely in her name as well? Or just the house? Hard to believe unless an extra contract is signed and notarized that he would be held liable if his name isn't on anything. I think it would be found legally reasonable enough he assume she'd welcome him to live with her while having the autonomy to assert ownership for herself if and apparently when things go sour. In any case, laws differ based on the locality and she'd probably serve herself best spending the money she'd put into a surveillance system into some good legal advice. If she's at the point of bugging her boyfriend, I'd call that a pretty hard ceiling for the relationship regardless of what, if anything, her amateur reenactment of Spy Kids uncovers.

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