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    Wife Travels Abroad Often Without Me

    I've been married to wife for five years now and have known her since 2009.

    Lately we have been arguing a lot about her decision to take our daughter (who was born in 2017) away from me abroad for months at a stretch. Her fatherhood and pregnancy took a toll on me financially. I was literally broke earlier in the year but managed to salvage the solution.

    She wanted to travel abroad to visit her sister in Scotland for 50 days knowing that I just faced a crisis. Along with my infant. Upon her return I had to spend my resources throwng my daughter her first birthday party. Children are expensive. She never shares her money and only usues it for her trips. Again, last month she left alone for a friend reunion which was expensive yet again.

    Now her other sister is expecting her fitrst child in Canada. She left the country on the 4th of December and will only return on the 21st of February next year. Again with my daughter. She chose to skip our fifth anniversary and my birthday. I work hard right through the year and when I have time my daughter is never with me. I feel hurt and miserable beyond belief. I have always catered to her financial needs but for her it's her family first.

    Am I overreacting or is it normal to feel hurt? Thank you all in anticipation.

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    Oh must I mention that this happened once before in 2016 when I spent my resources so that she could visit her friends in India and then she took off to Canada without me. I didn't have the money!

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    It doesn't sound right to me. How is your relationship outside of this? What is it like when she's home?

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    I donít believe this story entirely.

    To bring an infant outside of the country, you need both parents or a signed note. Right?

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    Originally Posted by mustlovedogs
    I donít believe this story entirely.

    To bring an infant outside of the country, you need both parents or a signed note. Right?
    From the OP's previous thread, it looks like they live in India. Different laws.

    OP, you've been having issues with your wife prioritizing her family over you for years. Now, she's taking your child along with her.

    You're allowing this. There's no compromise here. And because I'm unfamiliar with your laws, I'm unaware of anything you can legally do to stop this.

    Have you talked with her about this? Although I have a feeling that no amount of talking will make a difference.

    This is a crummy situation for you to be in, and I empathize with you.

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    Originally Posted by LHGirl
    From the OP's previous thread, it looks like they live in India. Different laws.

    OP, you've been having issues with your wife prioritizing her family over you for years. Now, she's taking your child along with her.

    You're allowing this. There's no compromise here. And because I'm unfamiliar with your laws, I'm unaware of anything you can legally do to stop this.

    Have you talked with her about this? Although I have a feeling that no amount of talking will make a difference.

    This is a crummy situation for you to be in, and I empathize with you.
    Air India indicates there needs to be permission. Maybe itís different in India, but the laws will really be dictated by the arrival country.

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    Since we are not international lawyers, we can only work with the OP on the emotional aspects here, which is, I believe, is why he wrote. Plus, this has been going on prior to this child being born. It would be highly inaccurate for any of us to speculate on the legality issues here.

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    Originally Posted by LHGirl
    Since we are not international lawyers, we can only work with the OP on the emotional aspects here, which is, I believe, is why he wrote. Plus, this has been going on prior to this child being born. It would be highly inaccurate for any of us to speculate on the legality issues here.
    Itís fair to ask - is he granting permission? Why grant it if heís not ok with it? Doesnít he get some claim to the child?

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    Originally Posted by bebopower793
    Oh must I mention that this happened once before in 2016 when I spent my resources so that she could visit her friends in India and then she took off to Canada without me. I didn't have the money!
    Then why in the name of all that is good are you catering to her?

    Do you not know how to say "NO?"

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    Then why in the name of all that is good are you catering to her?

    Do you not know how to say "NO?"
    Was going to ask same.

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