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    Originally Posted by Kb007
    Your right we donít know her side. Iím here because Iím staying with him regardless but wanted to put it out there to vent I suppose. How do you know he didnít use protection lol I think you are being very narrow minded and putting your own idea as to what you think the situation is.
    You're the one who used the word "probably", which I simply repeated.

    In any event, I'd have zero respect for someone who wants little to do with his own child, regardless of how well he treated me.

    This isn't about who did or did not use protection.

    In your first post, you talk about the Romanian girl "misusing" the situation. No, she did not. There were two people there that night.

    If he absolutely didn't want a child, he could have abstained.

    This is about who is or is not taking responsibility. Mr. Wonderful is not.

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    You seem to be keen on blaming the woman, but your boyfriend was the one who got her pregnant and he obviously did something that upset her so badly that she stayed away from him, even while still in UK and pregnant with his baby.

    Think about it, if you got pregnant with someone's baby would you hide from them, especially if he was a good guy? She had her reasons but they must have been pretty big ones as to ban him from the child's life.

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    Yes I get why you would think she was fleeing lol but no honestly Iíve spoke to his mother and family and I donít believe that anything sinister has happened.

    Iím not blaming her as I wasnít there. I donít know what she had in mind but I can tell you that apparently she fell pregnant and began to distance herself from him. They went on holiday when she was pregnant together and she told him that she planned on going home to Romania and raising the child alone.

    I get that Iím putting it out there and Iím just happy to be able to do that. Please donít judge my man on what you read here. He is a great dad and this is not what he would have chosen for her. Yes we both would accept her in our lives with open arms if she came looking.

    Thank you for all your advice

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    I didn't have the idea what so ever that she was fleeing. I had more the idea that they had a huge lovers quarrel over something and that's what caused the rift.

    I doubt he will ever tell you what it was because he seems to want to make it look like he did nothing wrong and she was the problem.

    But yes, there are two sides to every story. He did something that made her think it was better to not have him be a part of this child's life. That's a pretty big deal.

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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    You seem to be keen on blaming the woman, but your boyfriend was the one who got her pregnant and he obviously did something that upset her so badly that she stayed away from him, even while still in UK and pregnant with his baby.

    Think about it, if you got pregnant with someone's baby would you hide from them, especially if he was a good guy? She had her reasons but they must have been pretty big ones as to ban him from the child's life.
    There are some women who just want a baby and they want to be single moms with total say over how the child is raised.

    I remember years ago, my brother was dating a woman, and he asked me for advice on some comments she had made. They were comments that made him uncomfortable, to do with her envisioning herself raising a child alone and how she preferred that. Also she had made some general negative anti-men comments. He broke it off shortly after, because he always wanted a family and had lost trust on this woman's intentions.
    Funny enough, within a short time, this lady had become a mom with no dad in the picture.

    So in OPs case, with the woman leaving the country, it makes me wonder if she did this by choice. Other questions pop up too, like maybe she wasn't able to legally stay in the country.

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    If only things were as simple as what you say Sherrysher itís an easy way of putting it.... life would be so simple .. imagine!

    Thank you for your opinion though. Thatís me being genuine, but I honestly donít think itís sinister.

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    This friend of my boyfriend's at the time was trying to secretly get him to go to Romania as a "free trip" to get fake engaged to her sister, so she could get a green card. Left a BAD taste in my mouth about Romanians.

    The dad who raised my hubby, when my hubby was 27, they had a falling out for an entire decade, and now he is very much in our lives. Even if she does come back, or the daughter wants a relationship, she is blood, and very much him, so love her. That's it.

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    I totally agree, although I am sensing that this isn't the case. She was from a different country and barely knew this man. It seems odd to decide to have a child that far from home and then take off.

    I guess because it would be really inconvenient to carry a child in a country that's not your own.The costs would be atrocious, even with traveler's insurance.

    It's why my vibes are telling me that he and her had a lovers quarrel after she got pregnant by accident.

    But if she was from another country and went through this alone, despite having him in the same country, I really would wonder what he did.

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    She wasnít alone she had family here but Iím not sure she had rights to stay though. I donít know if he was the only man either. Which is why it seemed a bit suspicious to me.

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    The thing is, do you know how expensive it is to have anything done medically in a country that's not yours? A simple doctor visit is over $100 nevermind the care it takes for a pregnancy.

    That's why I can't see that she did this on purpose.

    And okay then, let's say your bf wasn't the only man. How does that look on him to be sleeping around with a woman who might be with several men? And then on top of it, not even use a condom?

    What I'm saying here Kb and I know you don't want to hear it but your bf doesn't come off the best in this situation. He has been irresponsible and who knows if HE used this girl.

    The whole story isn't great.

    I hope is this child comes looking for him, that he does the right thing and takes care of her.

    I still think there's more to the story but for now, he wants to come off as a prince, so be it.

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