Well, last night when I was on one of my less enjoyable online dates, an individual who used to work with my ex walked in and sat down. The bar was small enough, so I knew at some point I was going to end up interacting with him and his loud friend who apparently also works at my ex's precious place of employment. Unsurprisingly, not too long in, we all began interacting with each other and the combination of not enjoying the date and not wanting to hear about my ex made me want to leave, but apparently not fast enough!
At one point, the two men who are acquaintances of my ex began sh*t-talking him unprovoked by me and then the one I didn't recognize apologized as if he was insulting me. In response, I assured him I thought my ex was a acumbag because he cheated on me with a coworker who he still dates to this day. I understand that I walked into this, but he replied, "Oh, well they're engaged you know. Must still bother you."
I pretty much left the bar 15 minutes later and kept my cool until a few hours later, but then experienced a very weird mix of painful emotions. Until the ex cheated on me, I thought he was "the one" and that someday we would get married. Then for about a year afterwards, I comforted myself saying that he simply didn't have it in him to commit to anyone. Four years later he is marrying the girl he screwed me over with seemingly happy as can be.
I have had zero thoughts or feelings about this individual for a lonv time. I had a serious couple-year relationship with someone else since we broke up. So, why the hell did this news get to me so damn much? Anyone else experience anything similar?
Oh, and for the record I got rid of social media a year ago, because I hate knowing random facts about exes and others that I do not like (I've never looked back or missed it at all). I associate with almost nobody relating to that ex and it still took all of 2 weeks for it to get back to me in the worst way possible. Life is silly like that, I guess.