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    Nursing instructor gave me a Strike for being late despite emailing her?

    Hey guys. I'm currently in my second semester of nursing school (trad BSN program).

    Yesterday was my first day of my maternal-health nursing clinicals as I was in the NICU. The clinicals started at 6:30 and because of a family situation (had to drop off my sister bc there was no one to give her a ride to school), I knew I was going to be late, so I emailed my instructor at 6:09 AM. However, her rule is she only takes calls before 6:15, which I completely forgot. So I arrived 6:55.. Bc of my anxiety, I called my mom then called the professor. We met at 7:10.

    Told her my situation...she said that it wasn't an emergency, how I was unprofessional, how I had only had to call, how I would lose my license if I was really working, how I should feel sorry for myself bc I need to make myself a priority, how I didn't communicate accordingly. I apologized several times & told her that I was never late last term, she told me she didn't want to hear it.

    So she gave me an Unmet. And if I get two, I have a risk of failing the course. I don't know what to do bc it's not like I didn't communicate & there was no way I could just leave my sis at home. One of my friends had a similar situation & was late 40 mins, however her professor just gave her a talk because it was the first day & warned her to not let it happen again.

    Any advice? I've been thinking about it since as maternal nursing is one of my highest nursing interests. I'm worried.

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    It sounds like a rigorous program. Do you live at home? Discuss with your family to handle their own matters and be more organized. Explain the rigors of the coursework. If it's a good school and good clinical program, you can expect a lot of rules and regulations. Such programs tend to be competitive, so they expect grades and academic performance not excuses.

    Reread all the curriculum and clinical rotation rules expectations, etc. Toe the line. Be as proficient and professional as possible. Do not expect special treatment unless you can document a disability, emergency, etc. Do not backpedal and keep persisting that it was "unfair" and "your poor sister" and "so-and-so got such and such". Take it for what it is and do the best you can.

    Make an appointment with your school counselor if you live in a chaotic environment where the kids are being the adults. Also consider getting on or off campus housing with fellow students because your home-life is the real problem, not the "unfairness" of whatever rigors must be met.
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    Told her my situation...she said that it wasn't an emergency, how I was unprofessional, how I had only had to call, how I would lose my license if I was really working

    So she gave me an Unmet. And if I get two, I have a risk of failing the course.

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    It is not your job to take your sister to school. Be on time for our own school.

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    Your sister will have to find other arrangements. The school has their rules and you need to follow them in order to pass the course.

    The instructor is right, if this were a job, you'd be fired or reprimanded.

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    So you were 40 minutes late? And you called your mom before your professor?

    Donít blame this on anxiety. No offense, but if you canít handle proper decision making in low stress environments like this, then maybe being a nurse isnít the right path. There are rules for a reason - you are training to handle lives.

    Just be on time. Thatís your only option.

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    you are training to handle lives.
    This is the exact reason why your instructor is so harsh. This isn't a typical job. It can be high stress and not a job you can walk in late.

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    Originally Posted by oheyitsfaith
    Hey guys. I'm currently in my second semester of nursing school (trad BSN program).

    Yesterday was my first day of my maternal-health nursing clinicals as I was in the NICU. The clinicals started at 6:30 and because of a family situation (had to drop off my sister bc there was no one to give her a ride to school), I knew I was going to be late, so I emailed my instructor at 6:09 AM. However, her rule is she only takes calls before 6:15, which I completely forgot. So I arrived 6:55.. Bc of my anxiety, I called my mom then called the professor. We met at 7:10.

    Told her my situation...she said that it wasn't an emergency, how I was unprofessional, how I had only had to call, how I would lose my license if I was really working, how I should feel sorry for myself bc I need to make myself a priority, how I didn't communicate accordingly. I apologized several times & told her that I was never late last term, she told me she didn't want to hear it.

    So she gave me an Unmet. And if I get two, I have a risk of failing the course. I don't know what to do bc it's not like I didn't communicate & there was no way I could just leave my sis at home. One of my friends had a similar situation & was late 40 mins, however her professor just gave her a talk because it was the first day & warned her to not let it happen again.

    Any advice? I've been thinking about it since as maternal nursing is one of my highest nursing interests. I'm worried.
    You were supposed to call, which you didn't. This bit is on you. Be certain to follow protocol. You cannot use these excuses with your job, you must be more responsible.

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    Your professor is 100% correct on every single point. Be thankful you have someone who is willing to teach how to succeed in the real world, instead of patting you on the back for poor decisions.

    Learn from this. Get your priorities straight. Don't ever risk running late again. Always call and leave a message if something does happen. If you are already running late, then don't sit on the phone for 15 minutes chatting with your mom, sprint to where you need to be. This last part was particularly ridiculous of you. You turned 25 minutes late to 40. Don't ever do that again. Being on time is the norm and nobody gets a cookie for that. Those who can't manage that get fired.

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    So, how old is your sister and how much more important was it that she get to school than yourself?

    As others have stated, it's not your problem.

    I can see that possibly you made a deal to use the family car if you agree to do such things. Bad deal, it will ruin your schooling and career.

    Your sister could have missed school and you be on time. Her problem is not yours.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    It is not your job to take your sister to school. Be on time for our own school.
    yeah ...Look she is trying to give you a taste of how it will be real life ...the absolute dire importance of you getting there on time and been ready for action so to speak .

    But...I think she was a little harsh in giving you an unmet ?? I have no idea what that is but presume it is a warning , if you will fail with only two of these I think a verbal warning would have been sufficient ...you attempted to make a call , you had a reason in your mind and I do think this was a little too much .

    You must make sure your family know that your sister is not your responsibility .

    Finally well done for pursuing such a wonderful career . We dote on our nursing staff here with so much gratitude ..<3

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