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Thread: Will she get a higher sex drive?

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    Will she get a higher sex drive?

    I'm dating a girl and we seem to be hitting off pretty well. Except, we don't share the same sex drives. While I have a pretty high one, she says she doesn't even wanna go to a room until marriage.
    We didn't technically start the relationship yet. Will this work out eventually? If so how can I make it work coz I'd love to have her. Or will it be a mess?
    P.S.if it helps she's 19 & I'm 24. Is it her just being too young & scared & it'll pass?

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    If she wants to wait till marriage, you should respect that.

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    Well, it's nothing to do with her sex drive. She doesn't want to have sex until marriage. There are still people who feel this way. For example, a lot of Christian and Muslim girls want to wait. Maybe you should fine someone else to date if that's top on your list.

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    It iss kinda on the top of my list that's the issue. If she would just want more over time I can patiently wait till then. Maybe I can gradually take her for movies and all those simple dates and build up a higher sexual attraction? And come to like a middle ground where she'd agree to have simple foreplay at least? Think that could happen over time?
    Coz it can just be coz she's so inexperienced. She's had a relationship before but she hasn't done any of the sort.

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    If she actually has a low sex drive in general I don't think that will change. You can't actually change people, you just have to either accept them as they are or not date them. Also if she wants to wait until marriage then you shouldn't force her to have sex, that's not right. I know you like her but if you don't have the same values, it probably won't work.

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    Originally Posted by nirm2009
    It iss kinda on the top of my list that's the issue. If she would just want more over time I can patiently wait till then. Maybe I can gradually take her for movies and all those simple dates and build up a higher sexual attraction? And come to like a middle ground where she'd agree to have simple foreplay at least? Think that could happen over time?
    Coz it can just be coz she's so inexperienced. She's had a relationship before but she hasn't done any of the sort.
    I don't understand why you are making all of these plans when the issue is .....she wants to wait untill marriage before having sex ...She might be hot to trot once there is a ring on her finger but her wishes are ..she waits for marriage . You seem to be missing this hugely and all these plans trying to engage in anything is a waste of time .....you asked
    Coz it can just be coz she's so inexperienced
    ...no mate ...she wants to wait untill marriage , you wrote that yourself and you need to accept it .

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    The issue is not her sex drive or her level of sexual attraction towards you. It's that she wants to wait until marriage. If you can't respect her values, leave her alone.

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    She doesn't lack a sex drive. She's not just "young and scared". She is sticking to her morals and ethics. If you want sex, she's not who you should be dating. Date someone who isn't a virgin and who'll have sex easily and right away. Get on tinder and look for those who are willing to hookup.
    Originally Posted by nirm2009
    she says she doesn't even wanna go to a room until marriage.

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    It has absolutely nothing to do with her sex drive what so ever.

    She has just decided she wants to wait till marriage that's all.

    It had nothing to do with her being "young". It's her decision and morals that she wants to wait till marriage that's all.

    If this something you do not see for yourself then the kindest thing would be to walk away now.

    I had a friend who met a girl. He was very sexually experienced and she wanted to wait till marriage. As he saw her being the "one". He waited and they ended up married.

    If you don't see that then please let this girl go so she can find a man like that.

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    OP, building attraction or her sex drive is not the issue.

    Her belief about waiting to marriage is. Would she change her mind about that? Possibly, but no guarantee. If your beliefs don't line up with hers, then trying to date her is not a great idea.

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