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    You're entitled to decide what's most important to you, you're just not entitled to impose your priorities on someone else. So if sex is most important to you, respect this woman's limits and free her to go find someone who's values match hers. Then you're free to go find someone who wants to be sexually active with you.

    Don't be "that guy" who tries to manipulate sex from someone who doesn't want to have it. That's the perfect way to end up a resentful baby-daddy.

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    Thanks for all the help guys. Being with me for more than half a year now she's opened up a hell of a lot. She most probably won't have sex until marriage I'm willing to accept that. She doesn't even wanna get fully undressed when with me. Conservative like that :) But pretty much everything else she does now. Prettyy happily NOT forcefully. Earlier it was just her conservative mind telling her not to show that side of hers to me.

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    Originally Posted by nirm2009
    I'm dating a girl and we seem to be hitting off pretty well. Except, we don't share the same sex drives. While I have a pretty high one, she says she doesn't even wanna go to a room until marriage.
    We didn't technically start the relationship yet. Will this work out eventually? If so how can I make it work coz I'd love to have her. Or will it be a mess?
    P.S.if it helps she's 19 & I'm 24. Is it her just being too young & scared & it'll pass?
    You are not even in a relationship yet! Goodness! And she has a certain set of values...which is perfectly fine! Who knows...she might end up being dynamite in bed...for her husband! But clearly she wants to save that for him. It's not her being too young or scared; it's her being confident in her belief system and knowing she doesn't need to sleep with someone until the time is right. Props to her!

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    Originally Posted by nirm2009
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    Thanks for all the help guys. Being with me for more than half a year now she's opened up a hell of a lot. She most probably won't have sex until marriage I'm willing to accept that. She doesn't even wanna get fully undressed when with me. Conservative like that :) But pretty much everything else she does now. Prettyy happily NOT forcefully. Earlier it was just her conservative mind telling her not to show that side of hers to me.
    It sounds like you might be hoping that she eventually gives in. For her sake, I sincerely hope she DOES NOT! DO NOT pressure her!

    And you are willing to accept that? What?!? You HAVE to accept that. She is not necessarily conservative, she just knows her value. Sounds like you don't.

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    Originally Posted by nirm2009
    It iss kinda on the top of my list that's the issue. If she would just want more over time I can patiently wait till then. Maybe I can gradually take her for movies and all those simple dates and build up a higher sexual attraction? And come to like a middle ground where she'd agree to have simple foreplay at least? Think that could happen over time?
    Coz it can just be coz she's so inexperienced. She's had a relationship before but she hasn't done any of the sort.
    Trying to come up with ways to get around her boundaries and decision she's already made for herself is asking for trouble on your part. You don't want to push her too far and end up being accused of sexual assault. If you want a partner who is also willing to be sexually active with you, I think you should look elsewhere if you can't be celibate too, or get married soon if that's what both of you want to do, but not just for the sexual aspect.

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