Avoidant Attachment

Has anyone ever made it work with an avoidant? I just finished round two with my ex.

After the first round I ended up depressed. I thought I was making all the wrong moves...turns out there aren’t any right ones with an avoidant.

She came back after a year and I saw all of her distancing techniques and disconnection play out. I am relieved to know i was not a total failure of a boyfriend.

You mean, your girlfriend was unemotional? Was she autistic? Why don't you tell us about it.

So you want us to tell you how to go back to someone you're describing as mentally unstable?

That wouldn't be very responsible.

Why are you so focused on her mental state? Serious question. Do you think maybe by deflecting you can ignore the fact that you are actively attempting to play a chess game with this woman instead of leaving and being happy with someone else?

im sorry for the breakup. It sounds painful. It also sounds like the year apart allowed you to learn and grow; and you were able to see what was happening more clearly when she started acting out again. That's a worthwhile take away.

On/off relationships don't turn out well in the long run. Good you ended it and can now move forward.

She came back after a year and I saw all of her distancing techniques and disconnection play out.