JoshJackson Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 I've been hanging out with this girl for a month. We've cuddled once and will snap each other for hours on end but recently she hit me with a text saying "thanks bud" am I done for? Should I try to keep flirting with her or just abandon ship and move on I really do have feelings for her. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 What do you think she meant by "thanks bud?" That could mean a few things, not necessarily that she doesnt want to talk to you again. Why dont you ask her what she meant? Link to comment
JoshJackson Posted November 11, 2018 Author Share Posted November 11, 2018 Well it's not that I think she doesn't want to talk to me anymore but the fact that she only thinks of me as a friend Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 Have you taken her out on a date? Link to comment
DanZee Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 Yeah, exactly. She may be waiting for you to ask her out, bud. Link to comment
Jellybean9 Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 I've referred to my actual bf at the time as "mate". It's a colloquial term. Doesn't mean he was my "mate". Same goes with bud. If you walk away now without asking her out you will always wonder "what if" So if you are willing to lose her now...what have you got to lose to ask her out if she says no? Nothing! So just ask her out and good luck "bud" Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 You are squarely in the friendzone. By "hanging out" and snapping/messaging all the time you are acting like a male-girlfriend, not a guy who wants to date her. Stop wasting your time messaging and "flirting" and ask her on a real date.I've been hanging out with this girl for a month. We've cuddled once and will snap each other for hours on end Link to comment
milly007 Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 Those words could mean anything. Only way to know for sure how she feels is to ask her out. Link to comment
James516 Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 Based on this and your other brief post, you're chatting and hanging out with her plus possibly talking about other guys probably just like any of her female friends. What do you expect to happen except to become a friend. As a male, at some point in your life, you're going to have to take the small risk of asking women out instead of what you're doing currently. Might as well get used to it and start now. Link to comment
Andrina Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 Maybe it's a dig because you're as slow as a slug in asking her out. If she's into you, she's probably frustrated. Perhaps times are different now, but I never cuddled with a guy friend. Taking risks in life isn't easy, but necessary or you let golden opportunities slip you by. Ask her to a dinner where you have to dress up. Bring her a rose. Tell her she looks beautiful. Good luck. Link to comment
Sportster2005 Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 If you don't want to be put in the friend zone, don't act like a friend. You can't hang out like a bud, and then expect to be treated like a potential. If you like a woman, pursue them clearly and early. Sneaking in under the friend radar rarely works. Link to comment
Jhain Posted November 29, 2018 Share Posted November 29, 2018 Take a shot. Life is all about progress Link to comment
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