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    Unpleasant childhood memory

    As many know I have opened my own home daycare. In my care is a before and after school child of the age of 5.

    At about 5 years old I had a very traumatic experience. My dad tried to run my mom over with a car that I was a passenger in. I remember screaming and crying and begging him not to hurt my mom. I remember holding my brother down on the floor of the car so he could not see. He was 2 at the time. I remember my dad screaming at me to “ shut up stupid.”

    This memory has come to me a few times this week. I am assuming because I am caring for a child that age.

    Just had to get it out of my head and onto “ paper” so to speak. A reminder to people that the affects of abuse of children doesn’t go away and affects all aspects of your life even if you are a productive and functioning person.

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    I'm sorry this happened to you, Seraphim. :( I hope you're doing okay.

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    My mother was verbally and physically abusive, she hit first and didnt ask questions later. She used a wooden spoon to whack me - a lot. Stuff like that stays in your memory, and to this day I have no wooden spoons in my house. One time I won a draw and got a huge stainless steel mixing bowl with a really big wooden paddle/spoon. I kept the bowl and threw the wooden spoon in the woodstove. So I can understand the memory you are having and how it affects you.

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    Sadly, those triggers never seem to leave us no matter how much work we do around it... I guess the work simply helps us process and move through the feelings in an appropriate way.

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    Thanks. I think sometimes parents don’t realize or care about the damage they cause.

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    Seraphim, I'm so sorry to hear you went through something so traumatic. It hurts me to read what your dad did to you at such a fragile age.

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    Thanks. Sadly, my dad doesn’t care and probably doesn’t even remember the incident. The woman after my mom got worse. He threw her down a flight of stairs and broke her leg.

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    Look into EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). I use this method to deal with trauma and it does seem to diminish the visceral reaction to awful memories.

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    Originally Posted by HealingLight
    Look into EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). I use this method to deal with trauma and it does seem to diminish the visceral reaction to awful memories.
    I have done EMDR which has been very effective. I don’t usually have visceral reactions anymore. I notice sometimes things come to mind.

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    My goodness I am so sorry you went through that. I was abused as a child and it will forever be imbedded in my mind. But that doesn’t have to ever be who you are! There is healing. I know a book that helped me a lot was Mending the Soul by Steven Tracy. It helped me understand so much. I am praying for you and the kiddos you are helping.

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