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    How to politely tell my ex boss to shut her pie hole

    I am sure many of you know I started my own daycare and gave my boss notice of 6 weeks. I hired my best friend to work with me who also worked at the same centre I did. My former boss is now acting like we are indentured servants or something . She has been at the both of us ,Ēwhy canít one of you work for me on Friday why canít one of you work for me and just work for the other one necessary . ď I cant hire anybody because nobody wants this job. Etc etc...

    And then she starts talking to my best friend about my personal life . Saying how I took my son for an expensive weekend for his 21st birthday . And how if Iím starting my own business to pay off my bills I shouldnít be doing that blah blah blah ...

    She is now crossing the line and making me very angry . So far Iíve been very congenial as I do not want to burn bridges and I still work there in the evenings . But if she makes me much angrier Iím not going to be a very pleasant. No Iím certainly not diplomatic when angry .

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    You might have to suck it up if you continue to work there. Same as your friend.

    Once your established and you can officially tell her to "Shut your pie hole" then you can. Until then, just ignore her.

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    Originally Posted by JaggerJim
    You might have to suck it up if you continue to work there. Same as your friend.

    Once your established and you can officially tell her to "Shut your pie hole" then you can. Until then, just ignore her.
    I am established and my daycare is full. I work there at night for extra cash. Basically my husband and I are workaholics . I could afford not to work there at night now but I just do it anyway . Just may do it until Christmas is over and then tell them to suck eggs . I just hate leaving an employment on bad terms .

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    Oh wow even better! Then you can tell her to "Shut your Pie Hole" but in a nice direct way. Your ex-boss is just being an egg and you obviously have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself.

    If she gets all butt-hurt then that's her problem.

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    Well, Miss Manners would tell you to kill her with kindness. Your friend and you need to coordinate your actions. Just agree with her. Tell her she's right. You're both ingrates. Humor her.

    She's being passive-aggressive. Obviously, you guys have probably been running the business for her and she's freaking out over what she's going to do. You should pity her. Just treat her like a petulant child. Take the high road. Just agree, agree agree. Then she won't have anything to accuse you of.

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    Originally Posted by JaggerJim
    Oh wow even better! Then you can tell her to "Shut your Pie Hole" but in a nice direct way. Your ex-boss is just being an egg and you obviously have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself.

    If she gets all butt-hurt then that's her problem.
    Right.
    Pretty much.

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    Originally Posted by DanZee
    Well, Miss Manners would tell you to kill her with kindness. Your friend and you need to coordinate your actions. Just agree with her. Tell her she's right. You're both ingrates. Humor her.

    She's being passive-aggressive. Obviously, you guys have probably been running the business for her and she's freaking out over what she's going to do. You should pity her. Just treat her like a petulant child. Take the high road. Just agree, agree agree. Then she won't have anything to accuse you of.
    She would know that is sarcasm coming from me. I am pretty much what you see is what you get . Thing is she relied exclusively on me for almost 5 years . I jumped whenever she called . I am the kind of person who is 150% in or 150% out . Now I am out. What my job was casual you got offered what was available . You could have 60 hours or six nothing was ever guaranteed no raise was ever going to be offered because our executive director is a t.... they dropped the ball all the time . So I finally had to say sorry Iím not going to go bankrupt for you people Iím striking out on my own . And Iím helping a friend out at the same time .

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    Her going after my personal life is a low blow . Especially what I paid for my childís birthday. Nobody goes after my child unless they want to be strung up .

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    don't burn bridges ever - if possible. best advice ever.

    I would highly recommend not sayign anythign too bad to them (to give them fuel) because you and them are essentially competitors. the BEST way to get back a them is put them out of business and take their clients. see ? :) That ain't going to happen if word gets out that you told anybody ina professional environment to "suck eggs" (or make up your own quote you'd think you say) lol. (alternatively, maybe yo could hire others from this daycare for your own when it grows - let this boss back herself into a corner and make herself look bad and make everybody realize they'd rather work at YOUR daycare because you're more professional and took the high road).

    These specific examples may not be perttinent to your situation but are examples of why you "never burn bridges". You just never know when and where and in what form help and success will come from.

    don't think small. think big.

    good luck with your new daycare.

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    Originally Posted by thisisrichey
    don't burn bridges ever - if possible. best advice ever.

    I would highly recommend not sayign anythign too bad to them (to give them fuel) because you and them are essentially competitors. the BEST way to get back a them is put them out of business and take their clients. see ? :) That ain't going to happen if word gets out that you told anybody ina professional environment to "suck eggs" (or make up your own quote you'd think you say) lol. (alternatively, maybe yo could hire others from this daycare for your own when it grows - let this boss back herself into a corner and make herself look bad and make everybody realize they'd rather work at YOUR daycare because you're more professional and took the high road).

    These specific examples may not be perttinent to your situation but are examples of why you "never burn bridges". You just never know when and where and in what form help and success will come from.

    don't think small. think big.

    good luck with your new daycare.
    Well, I canít put them out of business. They are a daycare and community centre with over 100 kids. I can only have 5. I am no threat to them. But I was the only person they relied on for other casual care department . The casual care department has three employees and I was the only one who could come at a moments notice . And I took one of the three employees with me . So that leaves one person who canít come all the time . But in reality the work place that I entered five years ago is not even close the one Iím leaving now . It is so different and abominable they donít even resemble the same thing . And even my boss is one 80% different . Iím just friggin glad to be out .

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