My Boyfriends "best friend"

First it starts off by me finding out my bf has asked this chick that he has known for 9 years for pictures of herself masturbating. Oh BOY. So believe me when I tell you I was all kinds of pissed. If you haven't read my very first post, I have been with my bf for 6 years going on 7, and I take care of the household chores around the house since his father has taken us in. Over the past couple of months our life has been going down hill, but I've made it clear that I would stick by this dude no matter what because of course, I love him. Let me tell you a bit about this girl. So I've actually dated her in the past, and the reason we broke up was because she was the biggest you can imagine. We have labeled her the succubus. Now DON'T get me wrong, she's beautiful. & although I can not deny her features, I don't find it okay for my man to be asking for something like that when I'm literally in the next room always prepped ;) SO about 6 months ago, I had decided that in order for me to let go of the feelings I had toward their relationship, I figured that since I couldn't beat the game (make him stop talking to her) I would join it (by becoming friends with her and her HUSBAND & KIDS) for awhile now I kinda hated their relationship because of my own insecurities and it had been putting a complete damper in my relationship. So as the dumb ass I was, I allowed it and went with the flow. For awhile everything was fine. We all went fishing together and nothing seemed to be wrong in any way. Until I found the message. See this girl has the tendency to talk about sex ALOT. Therefore, whenever her husband isn't pleasuring her, she finds the need to express it to my boyfriend who is her apparent "best friend". She obviously does not realize what that does to a grown man. She literally put images into his head, so in his response to this he asked her for pics.

After he asked that, she told him to call her and o.m.g. there was a video chat. SO. I. blew. tf. up. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not usually the type to look at his phone, but this time I swear it was like something was asking me to look at it. He had left it by me (which he never does), because it's his phone and he has important calls and stuff. Guys, this seriously broke me. I felt such rage and confusion. ALL my hidden insecurities came flooding in all at once. I didn't know what to do with myself. I wanted to punch him, but instead I thrust his phone into his chest and asked him "What the f*ck is this?!" & stormed off to my room. I was in tears and he didn't even follow me. With every step I took to my room, all I wanted him to do was grab for me and tell me it wasn't what it was, that this was a dream and I'm still laying down comfortably and happily in my bed. Although that wasn't the case. He had no explanation. It's been about four days since then, I had cried myself to sleep for the first two nights. My friends have comforted me as much as they could. Turns out the video call was "nothing but them talking about the kids and what she was planning to do that day" (but in reality I'll never truly know the truth). Also I confronted her, but she labeled herself as the "neutral party in this scenario." For now I have forgiven him the best I could, because he cried to me last night and told me how sorry he was and that he never wanted to hurt me. I feel like a fool for letting this go, because that girl had constantly made me feel so little in his life, and yet now that something has occurred I'm letting it go. She was always the reason for his lies, our very first argument together was when he lied and said he was going to see family when really he was going to a rave with her. I don't want to feel this way about myself. I have already tried to cut her off from our lives but she has made him her kids godparent, and I can't ever make her go away. I love him but I can't stand her & I can't trust her. What should I do?

I would dump him. He has terrible boundaries and knows you are a sucker -- you clean for him and will be with him "no matter what because you love him" so he can do anything he wants wit zero consequences. He asks her to send him sex pictures and you are okay with this??

So you are a woman, who dated this woman - so maybe he thinks that you would be "okay" with it?

Anyway -- i think you need to ditch them both. Get yourself a job so you don't have to be taken in by someone else's parents and be done with him. Don't let his crocodile fake tears sway you. Does the husband know she is sending porn to another man while having his babies??

Wow. The eternal triangle. I think you need to talk to both of them and lay the law down. In particular, talk to your former girlfriend and ask her what is she doing. She's married now and she's leading your boyfriend on and giving him ideas. And then your boyfriend needs to know where the boundary is in his relationship with you. Try not to get too upset but do talk to them both and clear this up. They certainly have an emotional relationship. They're buddies, but it's getting out of hand. You need to know there won't be any more lying or sex stuff going on.