Smirking and making eye contact?

I have a crush on this guy, I wore a kind of low cut top the other day out in public (I’m a DD) and I felt him staring at me as I walked towards him, I tried not to look at him. But I looked up at him anyway and he was looking at my eyes with a smirk on his face and asked me how I was doing... why would he smirk at me like that? Wondering if I should make a move...

Well, it's a little difficult to say. If you're going to be showing off your cleavage, a lot of guys will be staring at you. But, yeah, it never hurts to ask a guy out for coffee or lunch if you're interested in him. If you want something, you have to ask for it.

Is he a classmate? Customer? Coworker? How do you know him? If you want to ask him out go ahead.

I have a crush on this guy. Wondering if I should make a move...

he's just looking a your boobs....not your personality.

If you're a DD and have a need to mention you are and that you were wearing something low-cut, I think you very well know what he's smirking at.

What is your idea of "making a move" Lilah?

He's smirking at your boobs on show.

You tried to get his attention on you in a sexual way (or maybe any male's attention -those males who are attracted to women who enjoy showing off their boobs) and you achieved that.

He could have said something to "cover" for himself the fact that he looked at your boobs. The smirk could have been an awkward smile because you "caught" him doing it

This seems pretty obvious to me, he was looking at your boobs.

I work with him, and I didn’t catch him staring at my boobs, I looked up at him when I was walking towards him and he was staring into my eyes with a smirk!! But who knows, maybe he was staring at my boobs when I wasn’t looking, because I felt him staring at me for like 5 seconds like he was waiting for me to look at him. Oh well, I just don’t know if this is a sign if he likes me and if it’s worth trying to talk to him...or if he just couldn’t help but look and it doesn’t mean anything..because i know some people feel attraction but don’t act on it.

Do not approach or harass coworkers. The workplace is not a singles bar or dating app. Get on some dating apps if you want to date/want a bf.

Your mind is playing tricks on you because you have a crush on him. No one "feels people staring for 5 secs".

Smirking is usually an expression of contempt, disdain or scorn. Perhaps he was wondering why you want to dress like trollop at work?

I work with him I felt him staring at me for like 5 seconds.

I work with him, and I didn’t catch him staring at my boobs, I looked up at him when I was walking towards him and he was staring into my eyes with a smirk!! But who knows, maybe he was staring at my boobs when I wasn’t looking, because I felt him staring at me for like 5 seconds like he was waiting for me to look at him. Oh well, I just don’t know if this is a sign if he likes me and if it’s worth trying to talk to him...or if he just couldn’t help but look and it doesn’t mean anything..because i know some people feel attraction but don’t act on it.

He probably was baffled as to why you’d dress inappropriately for work (well in some working environments I guess it would be part of the um uniform) and he might have found your breasts attractive especially since you obviously wanted to show off how big they are for some reason. He might be a person who finds large breasts attractive. It’s not appropriate to stare and it’s understandable as a reaction to surprise or shock.

I met my husband at work. He thought I was attracted to him becausectjecthird time we met at a work event I lightly touched his arm during a conversation while making a point (I don’t remember doing that andhe was wearing a suit - he wasn’t wearing a muscle shirt to show off his biceps - joke). A few days later he asked me to meet him for lunch . I think work can be a great place to meet potential partners or spouses and of course close. I think it’s a bad place to show off your private parts and attract attention in that way whether in a sexual or other way. And avoid dating someone to ieork very closely with or who is your boss or vice versa.

Strange post. You want to make it known that you are DD and yet say that he wasn't staring at your boobs. Why bother mentioning about your chest then?

Work is not the place to find a date nor it is very professional to wear tight clothes to show off your cleavage at work.

But at the end of the day, its your life on what kind of impression you want to give people.

Do not approach or harass coworkers. The workplace is not a singles bar or dating app. Get on some dating apps if you want to date/want a bf.

 

Your mind is playing tricks on you because you have a crush on him. No one "feels people staring for 5 secs".

 

Smirking is usually an expression of contempt, disdain or scorn. Perhaps he was wondering why you want to dress like trollop at work?

I could “feel” him staring at me out of my perifheral vision, or whatever you call it. I was right because I looked up and he was. Oh and I forgot to mention I was not working that day. I just had to go into the shop to buy something and he just so happened to be there. I am on vacation from work. But even if I was working and wore a low cut top like that, it seems like it would only be a problem since I have clevage! Having a larger chest makes any top look like you’re trying to show off unless it covers you up to your neck line 🙄

And as for the smirk, I smirked at him when I first saw him. He told me to have a good day and I responded back and gave him a smirk, a small smile...not because I thought I was better than him but because I thought he was attractive. And he gave me that same look that I’m talking about

Strange post. You want to make it known that you are DD and yet say that he wasn't staring at your boobs. Why bother mentioning about your chest then?

 

Work is not the place to find a date nor it is very professional to wear tight clothes to show off your cleavage at work.

 

But at the end of the day, its your life on what kind of impression you want to give people.

I second this post. Odd that you needed to mention your chest size in the first place. Hardly relevant, imo.

It sounds like you've never had a relationship? You seem obsessed with this. Not every guy will fall at your feet because of your bra size. If your face, figure and personality are not that good, you'll have to work on that. If your bra size is all you think you have going for you, you may get some hookups but you don't seem like gf material, given this attitude.

since I have clevage

I agree with Wisemen, breasts aren't the end all. They are to feed a baby first and foremost.

But also, did you know some men aren't even into big breasts? Strange but true. And there's even other men who actually fall in love with a woman's mind and personality and it's got nothing to do with breasts.

If you want a good time girl for porno's or bachelor parties, yes, then breasts are an asset, but it's not what a typical woman would strive for when it comes to being attractive to a man.

There's gotta be a lot more for a serious long term relationship.

A man won't stay just for a pair of large breasts.

No..... it's not about up to the neck line it's about wearing clothing that fits and if you weren't working and you want to show off cleavage and you're proud of your DD size (you apparently are as you made a point of mentioning it) then you will attract men who are focused on your large breasts, if they go for large breasts.

Why are you surprised he smirked at you if you smirked first? Maybe instead of smirking at someone you find attractive how about a genuine and warm "hi, how are you?"

OP this forum is not a dating site..

I'm not wondering why you posted your DD breast size and cleavage. To me it's quite obvious, you are seeking attention and hoping to attract the men on here.

I can't fathom why else you would mention since you clearly stated he was looking into your eyes!

Best to save your breast size for dating apps.

Good luck with this guy though!

No..... it's not about up to the neck line it's about wearing clothing that fits and if you weren't working and you want to show off cleavage and you're proud of your DD size (you apparently are as you made a point of mentioning it) then you will attract men who are focused on your large breasts, if they go for large breasts.

 

Why are you surprised he smirked at you if you smirked first? Maybe instead of smirking at someone you find attractive how about a genuine and warm "hi, how are you?"

This was a long time ago when I first saw him and he said something to me and I smirked at him. And yea maybe I should have said something like that but I’m socially awkward. When I went into the shop wearing that top that is when he smirked at me first and asked me how I was doing and I just smiled back.

Some of you are mean! I ask one question and everybody goes off on me about mentioning my bra size. So what? Maybe it wasn’t necessary to add that in but I can be too detailed sometimes. I came here to ask a question and get replies, not get attention about my chest! I’m not looking for male attention like that On here, I don’t even know these guys. I don’t go out looking for men at bars and clubs and stuff like that, not my thing. I don’t even go on any dating websites. If I was really that desperate for some male attention on here I would have posted a picture or something by now. I didn’t mean to fall for this guy, but his personality is what got me hooked.

So to rephrase my question so it doesn’t seem like I’m looking for attention on here, I don’t know if he was smirking at me because of my top and bra size, Like a flirtatious smile, or if he was just being a jerk. Because I know those types of smiles can have different meanings and I feel like he gives me mixed signals. He’s hot and cold, he’ll act like he doesn’t like me or that he’s better than me, and then the next day he’s all smiles asking me how I’m doing trying to make me laugh, joking around with me. He confuses me.

You will know if a man is interested in dating you because he will ask you out on a date. Are you interested in knowing whether he is interested in dating you or whether he is attracted to you? If the former no need to overanalyze signals because all that matters is whether he asks you out or accepts a date you invite him on if you feel like asking him out.

You made it seem you smirked at him first. Smirking is vague -he might just have something in his eye or be about to sneeze so his expression changed.

He may have noticed that you were wearing revealing clothing and if you are "hooked' on his personality why would you jump to the conclusion that a smirk means he is being a jerk? And how is it you are hooked on his personality if you say he acts in a condescending or arrogant way?? Makes no sense to me -does it, to you??

There are no mixed signals here as far as dating - he may be unavailable to date you because of working together -but the only signal that matters is asking you out or accepting a date when you ask him out (and typically a guy who is interested will do the asking especially since you've shown a lot of interest). Stop being "confused" and overthinking this if you want to know if he wants to date you If you want to know just if he finds you attractive -he probably does and he probably was surprised at how revealingly you were dressed on that particular day.

This is a coworker, so it's best to not worry about it and just be polite and professional. He has to act nice to you because he has to work with you.

You should be on dating apps and you should be seeking dating situations outside of work rather than playing staring games with male coworkers. Leave this poor guy alone and get your own bf.

You are NOT in a relationship with him, except in your mind. So there is no "hot/cold, confusing" whatever. All there is, is your crush on him and his lack of interest in dating you.

I don’t even go on any dating websites. I feel like he gives me mixed signals. He’s hot and cold, he’ll act like he doesn’t like me or that he’s better than me, and then the next day he’s all smiles asking me how I’m doing trying to make me laugh, joking around with me. He confuses me.

Apologies for the earlier misinterpretation, thanks for clarifying! In a way I think it was actually good you posted your physical stats, so we could get the full picture.

Re this guy, I think by going into work on your day off wearing revealing clothing, he was kinda "on to you" if you know what I mean.

To him, you "were" trying to get "his" attention (which is okay, it's obvious you like him!).

Your smirk confirmed that -- it was a flirt.

HE flirted by smirking back.

I actually love these little non-verbal flirtatious messages we send each other when there is a mutual attraction, it builds tension!

I don't know if it's the best idea to do it with someone you work with, assuming the goal is dating him.

But yeah I think he likes you and was flirting with you, or flirting back with you since you smirked first.

Enjoy and let it take you wherever it's meant to take you.

I'm not clear on what exactly is a "smirk?" Is it a negative kind of smile? Is it a specific kind of thing?

I'm not clear on what exactly is a "smirk?" Is it a negative kind of smile? Is it a specific kind of thing?

In the context of this situation, I think it was a flirtatious little smile.

She smiled first, then he did = non-verbal flirting.