Any guys/girls 40 or older never had a gf/bf?

Are there any guys or girls here 40 or older that never had a gf/bf? If so what's your story and reason? Does it bother you at this old age of never having a gf/bf?

Have you tried asking anyone out since the last time you posted? Have you tried an escort? What have you tried?

I have a male friend who is probably 53 or 54 and he's never had a date. He's a nice guy, good looking, crazy smart, and he's funny but I think he's just too shy to put himself out there. I would have asked him out if I wasnt married!

Omg how is that possible ;( has no girl ever asked me out instead?

Almost there. I have social anxiety.

IwishIknew,

I'm 41. Had a girlfriend for a couple of weeks when I was a freshman in high school. She was also my first kiss. Nothing since then including high school and college. I've tried online, asked friends, tried Meetup, speed dating, singles mixers, and go out alone a lot to put myself out there. Been turned down many many times. If I get a number I contact them and never hear back. I'll admit I have made some mistakes too. Still have my V card too. Yes it really bothers me. I feel like I've missed out on a lot of things. At this age I feel that I will never have my own family. I refuse to pay for companionship or intimacy.

Haha. I had a "girlfriend" in high school, she used me to hide the fact she was a lesbian. Really shows how women think of me.

People like Honeycomb8 really do live in their own little fantasy world.

No, I haven't done the escort service yet. I'm thinking back and forth weather or not to do it. One side of my head says yes go do it!!!! and other side says no! I want to do it and have the experience what it's like to be with a girl and kissing and having sex for the first time. But the down side is very risky.

I have bad luck in life and most likely something bad might happen. A few downsides if I do the escort service:

* It could be a set up

* I could be robbed

* Might feel like a loser that this is the only way for me to be with a girl by paying her $$

* I might get attacked

* I could get a transmitted disease

* The girl could have bad odor

* I could be turned down due to my bone disorder

* The pic in the ad isn't the same girl in person

* If something goes wrong or for whatever reason, the girl could call the police saying I raped her

* Being rushed and not getting my full time I payed for or not getting sex

* Not being able to perform or last long

*Might be addicted to it

It really sucks, this most likely is the only way I'll ever experience what it's like to be with a girl or getting my first kiss/sex by paying her $$

Well, you shouldn't do it illegally. Not only does that make being set up/robbed/ripped-off much more likely, but by doing so you will be supporting pedophilia and human trafficking. Go where it's a legal, legitimate business, like a licensed brothel in Nevada.

My sister-in-law never has. She is 47.

If you are looking for a healthy long term relationship I'd be careful about using an escort service - I can think of many women who would be uncomfortable knowing that (if they found out somehow or if you told them). Of course if you are a fan of using escort services then you probably should seek out women who feel the same but if this is just a one time thing to have sex then consider the potential consequences. I personally would not feel comfortable with it but might not be a dealbreaker.

Don't pull out just like that. Anything can still happen as long as there's life

The problem with visiting a prostitute is they fake everything and you will know deep down your getting attention only for money.They might end up running a con and ruining your next experience with women not using sex for power.

If you really want to date get a therapist or friend to help you get through your first few encounters.

Dating can be hard because we have to be willing to be rejected but once you get out there to meet single women you might have to say no because your just not feeling it.

Once you meet some nice respectful women they will help you connect with them.Trust me there’s still good respectable women out there.

Have fun.

iwishiknew, do you go out? To social events/places with friends? Put yourself in positions to meet new people? Tried online dating?

What do you think your reasons are for not meeting anyone/being in a relationship?

My sister-in-law never has. She is 47.

This just reminded me of my two cousins... one of them has been single for her entire life and the other has only had a few short term relationships and both are in the second half of their 40’s. Both perfectly lovely women that are successful, kind, and spiritual. I’ve never asked why I just assumed they hadn’t met their person yet. 🤷🏻♀️

I have an older cousin (mid 40s) who has never had a relationship. Life circumstances led to that but also partially a lack of desire. Now he feels he is too old and leaves it be and focuses on other things in his life. I don't think anyone is ever "too old" but if he is fine with his life, than more power to him.

Also I watched a documentary on Manolo Blahnik who has apparently never had a relationship and is in his 70’s.

iwishiknew, do you go out? To social events/places with friends? Put yourself in positions to meet new people? Tried online dating?

 

What do you think your reasons are for not meeting anyone/being in a relationship?

I do go out all the time. I like being outside, I love nature, I go to the forest preserve and the park. I always go biking, running, roller blading, and hiking. I do go out with friends when they're in town or visiting.

I don't do online dating anymore. I've done it before in the past for about 10 yrs and never worked for me. Online dating is a looks game, if you don't have decent/average looks or average height you won't get any responses, even if you share the same hobbies, activities, foods and interests.