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    Are your folks resisting putting him in catholic school, making sure he gets to church or both? How old is he?

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    Are your folks resisting putting him in catholic school, making sure he gets to church or both? How old is he?
    Right now he is 14 months old. I want him to start school in a Catholic school. I brought it up with my mom and she has excuses already.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    Right now he is 14 months old. I want him to start school in a Catholic school. I brought it up with my mom and she has excuses already.
    What excuses? Do you mean she doesn't want him in Catholic school? He's only a babe so you have lots of time to get her on board. I think the least she can do is get him started in the school you'd like to see him in and then he can decide when he's old enough if he wants to continue on in that direction.

    I am curious as to know why your mom is balking at that request.

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    I think it is a completely reasonable request, especially since you were raised in the church. However, if they don’t want to to it, they will just not. They may even give you a little lip service and then go right back to not doing anything. I also would find that frustrating, but other than arranging a baptism and maybe offering to pay for school, I wouldn’t hold my breath.

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    What excuses? Do you mean she doesn't want him in Catholic school? He's only a babe so you have lots of time to get her on board. I think the least she can do is get him started in the school you'd like to see him in and then he can decide when he's old enough if he wants to continue on in that direction.

    I am curious as to know why your mom is balking at that request.
    My mom is very stubborn about HER way . She also has an animosity for Catholicism. She was raised a very very strict Catholic but left the Church shortly after I was born. She hated religion would be keep her tied to my abusive nut case father. She hates organized religion but believes in God.

    I just feel if the child is going to be my child I would like my requests honoured too.

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    Originally Posted by arjumand
    I think it is a completely reasonable request, especially since you were raised in the church. However, if they don’t want to to it, they will just not. They may even give you a little lip service and then go right back to not doing anything. I also would find that frustrating, but other than arranging a baptism and maybe offering to pay for school, I wouldn’t hold my breath.
    I wasn’t raised a Catholic. I was baptized one as a four week old infant and that was pretty much it . I came to Catholicism has an adult. My husband and my son are cradle Catholics though .

    And my stepdad hates Catholicism more than my mother does .

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    My mom is very stubborn about HER way . She also has an animosity for Catholicism. She was raised a very very strict Catholic but left the Church shortly after I was born. She hated religion would be keep her tied to my abusive nut case father. She hates organized religion but believes in God.

    I just feel if the child is going to be my child I would like my requests honoured too.
    Hopefully she'll be more open to it when he's school age and she can at least get him started there where they will do the religious teaching and then when you have him, you can get him into going to church with you as a habit.

    In the meantime, gentle reminders now and then perhaps.

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    Hopefully she'll be more open to it when he's school age and she can at least get him started there where they will do the religious teaching and then when you have him, you can get him into going to church with you as a habit.

    In the meantime, gentle reminders now and then perhaps.
    I guess it will have to be that way. But she needs to make a trade off with me as I will handing away a retirement I have been super excited about.

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    Perhaps a middle path here it's agreed she will not raise him with anti religious sentiment and you will not raise him on a religious path?

    If he is raised with love and tolerance, he'll be miles ahead and will be able to objectively choose his own beliefs as he grows up.

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    How does it work (I don't know, not Catholic) if he doesn't go to a catholic school and comes to you as a teenager, let's say. Since you came to it as an adult (I get that you were baptized so I take it that as an adult was when you started believing/practicing) then can't you sort of make up for lost time and get him involved then? Maybe it doesn't work that way, just trying to find a middle ground. Also if he doesn't go to Catholic does that mean he would go to a public school (asking because I assume Catholic involves tuition, etc.).

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