Facebook share
LinkedIn share
Google plus share
Twitter plus share
Give Advice
Ask For Advice
Results 1 to 10 of 10

Thread: Broke up on bad terms

  1. #1
    Member Carolinee106's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2017
    Location
    Brazil
    Age
    24
    Posts
    18
    Gender
    Female

    Broke up on bad terms

    My ex and I broke up on bad terms three days ago.
    I don’t regret it, because he lied to me. But I feel sad about it. We’re blocked in every social media, zero contact since that day. I’m so mad at him. He told me to “never talk to him again”. I don’t want him to talk to me either, but...
    I’m feeling so sad... He was a friend and bf four days ago and now we’re nothing.

  2. #2
    Platinum Member Andrina's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2015
    Location
    central Florida
    Posts
    3,897
    Gender
    Female
    Just know it's normal to feel sad and it'll probably take a minimum of 4 to 6 months to start to have closure if you remain no contact. I't a crucial step on the way to healing. I've been there as most of us have. Take care.

  3. #3
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2017
    Location
    Boston, MA
    Age
    63
    Posts
    4,747
    Gender
    Male
    Wait a minute! Is this the guy who was dating his girlfriend when he was dating you too? I'm not saying you can't have feelings for him, but he was a liar and a cheat! Get over him already!

  4. #4
    Member Carolinee106's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2017
    Location
    Brazil
    Age
    24
    Posts
    18
    Gender
    Female
    Thank you, Andrina!! :)

  5.  

  6. #5
    Member Carolinee106's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2017
    Location
    Brazil
    Age
    24
    Posts
    18
    Gender
    Female
    DanZee, yaaa that guy!
    A lot happened since that post. He actually broke up with his now ex-gf.
    I had a blind optimism that he cheated on her because his relationship was already over and he liked me. And we were dating since that time.

  7. #6
    Member Carolinee106's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2017
    Location
    Brazil
    Age
    24
    Posts
    18
    Gender
    Female
    DanZee but then, three days ago I found out he was dating another girl besides me SINCE the time he was with his ex-gf.

    The funny thing is that HE’s the one who’s mad at me, because I talked to the other girl he was dating (and she broke up with him too).

    I should’ve know he was troubled... lesson learned.

  8. #7
    Platinum Member figureitout23's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2017
    Posts
    4,698
    Yep, you should have know.

    I suspect you did.

    Might be time to be single and sift through any baggage or insecurities you may have that caused you to think this guy was a safe bet.

  9. #8
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    36,929
    Gender
    Male
    It's good you are no contact and blocked and deleted him. He's a cad. At least now you can move forward to decent faithful guys who aren't players.
    Originally Posted by Carolinee106
    three days ago I found out he was dating another girl besides me SINCE the time he was with his ex-gf.... lesson learned.

  10. #9
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Mar 2018
    Location
    The emerald city
    Posts
    1,137
    Gender
    Male
    Originally Posted by Carolinee106
    My ex and I broke up on bad terms three days ago.
    I don’t regret it, because he lied to me. But I feel sad about it. We’re blocked in every social media, zero contact since that day.
    Stick to it, and start doing some new things to fill your time.

    If and when he calms down and finds some way to send you a communication, if its just some breadcrumb to see if he still has your attention, ignore it.

  11. #10
    Platinum Member catfeeder's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    New Jersey
    Posts
    22,587
    Gender
    Female
    Breakups are rarely something that makes anyone happy. You get to decide how much 'damage' your involvement with this guy is allowed to do to your psyche. We can either grow and become strengthened by what we learn from our experiences, or we can ruminate and work against ourselves.

    Choose wisely, and head high.


Give Advice
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •