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    Have you tried asking her what level of contact you can expect?

    I donít think there is anything wrong with being open if you fall in love easily... thatís kinda the point. You enjoy her, she is telling you she enjoys you. Sheís not great at follow through (at the moment) so check in with her. Ask her whatís up. Communicate.

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    You've used an interesting choice of words here, OP.

    You mentioned having a lover or following up with the person one is seeing. The thing is, you two are nowhere near either of those at this point. She isn't your lover, and you're not really seeing her either. It may progress to that, but I think your expectations are too high considering you have only been on two dates and you admit you had to push for the second.

    Open or not, she just doesn't sound that interested.

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    Well, does your boyfriend know about these dates? And what is his opinion of you having a girlfriend? It just sounds like you have an infatuation and you're cheating on your boyfriend. It's only an open relationship if everyone knows about it. And since you say you usually have deep feelings for someone, it sounds like you really shouldn't concentrate on more than one person at a time.

    Also this woman is like a Holly Go-Litely. She's having the time of her life, but everyone else is just hanging on vying for her attention. It just seems incredibly complicated and she is too busy for a real relationship. I think you should concentrate on one person at a time. You're probably only going to get hurt by this "relationship."

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    So I pushed for the second date to happen,
    I'd stop pushing and let her show you whether she values a 3rd date enough to step up to making it happen. Otherwise, you'll just keep depriving yourself of valuable information by doing all the pushing.

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    I agree with catfeeder, you've done the chasing for the second date, now it's up to her to reciprocate.

    You deserve someone to come see where you are if they are interested and it not be all one sided.

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