My boyfriend dont have time for me.

Im 22 and i have a boyfriend, he works all the time and he is obssesed with work, I used to get along it. But lately he is so dam busy. And the last time we were together he started to cry and he said that he feels sorry for not having time to be with me. Also he said : "I wish that I knew you long time ago" . I dont know if he regrets for proposing me. I love him but I dont know what to do.

How often do you see each other?

What do you mean obsessed? Does he work a lot of overtime when he doesn't really need to? If you mean he is a workaholic and prioritizes that over people, I suggest ending things. There is a difference between having a high work ethic and being a workaholic. There needs to be a healthy balance of work and home-life. If this is happening, don't settle. There are cute, fun, kind guys your age out there who know how to be a good companion to you.

How many hours does he work? How often do you see one another?

I had a BF that was always working..I dumped him and met someone else who had time for me.

2 maximum 3 times a week

That is plenty. Do you work or go to school?

2 maximum 3 times a week

2 maximum 3 times a week

Agree, 3 times a week is more than plenty! That is how often I see my bf, and sometimes not even that! He also works a lot, sometimes weekends too.

How often would you like or need to see him?

His tears may be tears of frustration for not being able to please or make you happy.

Do you hassle him about this? Not accusing, just asking.

This is going to sound rude/mean but that’s not how it’s meant. If you don’t want a broke man your going to have a busy man.

What's wrong with seeing each other three times a week?

How long have you been together?

3x a week sounds pretty good to me. I'd be more concerned about a man who cried because he's busy.

 

I'd be more concerned about a man who cried because he's busy.

lol, I read this 5 min ago and am still chuckling (seriously), too funny and yeah agree! Good grief.

2 maximum 3 times a week

That's already a lot. How does he have no time for you? You have to understand he's working and at least he gives you time to meet.

Maximum is 3 times a week, but usually 2. I just need more time I dont wanna pressure him, I got so upset this weekend when he said to me that he regrets to be dating me because I deserve more but he dont have time to please me. We have been dating together for 7 months. I love him and I feel that he loves me too.

Do you mean he ended things? It sounds like you are incompatible. Perhaps it's for the best and he can focus on work and you can find a guy who has more spare time to spend with you.

he said to me that he regrets to be dating me because I deserve more but he dont have time to please me.

No he didn't, when he saw I was so upset, he just promised that he will try to find more time for me. He works around 14-15 hours a day.

You're young, if you don't want to accept this, don't.

That being said, you should focus more on keeping yourself busy. Work, school, friends. Then you won't notice how much time he doesn't have for you. Those are long days he's working. Honestly I appreciate men that are driven.

If you love someone, you compromise. That's how you stay together. Accept his work ethic, or don't. But I'd never give up a guy that worked hard. It's not about quantity, it's about quality. If your time together is fun, and enjoyable, then let it be.

I deleted my post as I didn't realize it was from back in August and I had already responded.

I still maintain that 2-3 times a week is plenty, more than plenty, so not quite sure OP what more you're expecting of him.

His tears were either from frustration at not being able to please you (and knowing that if you continue to pressure him about it, he may be forced to end the RL) or he knows now he wants to end it which will hurt you and he feels guilty.