Is it likely I have HIV or am I a hypochondriac?

Hello, I'm a 24 year old male who works out 3-6 time s a week, works a mildly physical job (standing and squatting for 10 hours a day/4 days a week). I run a lot and have never used street drugs or used needles. I am however being treated for major depression, anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive disorder. I lost my virginity to a girl I knew from high school back in early March of this year. I was very drunk and she kept turning the lights off, but I remember using a condom for penetrating sex she removed it at one point to perform oral and it was put back on but I'm worried that at one point the condom might of come off, I can't completely remember. She claims we were completely protected the whole time and showed no concern. I never ejaculated as I was extremely drunk and almost scared of what was going on but was afraid to say anything. I feel so dirty/unclean about what happened and haven't spoken/seen this girl in months now and refuse to drink alcohol. I have a complete physical done in April complete with blood/urine work but my doctor said they weren't going to test for STDs as I thought I seemed perfectly healthy. Now my depression and anxiety have been worse than ever these past couple of weeks and working out/my prescriptions have helped but this past week I've experienced a dull pain in my inner thighs and I've had a runny day for a couple of days. Is it likely this is HIV or something completely harmless like soreness from exercise/work? I'm planning on seeing my doctor to get tested but if any healthcare professionals reading this could give some input, I'd appreciate it.

Wow! Calm down, cowboy! You can call your doctor's office and get a referral for an STD test. The risk of getting HIV from vaginal and/or oral sex is 1 in 2500, so that's pretty small odds, and that's if she's infected. The typical physical does not test for STDs unless you ask for it.

Instead, I would think that you're driving yourself crazy over nothing, but for your peace of mind, get the STD text. I can tell you that squatting and working out too hard can give you a hernia, so you might want to back off your exercising and see if the pain eases in a couple of weeks.

I think more you're suffering from guilt. You shouldn't feel guilty sleeping with a girl. It's one of the best things you can do in life. But the chances of her being pregnant or giving you HIV is very small based on what you've said. So calm down!

Yes calm down, you are making yourself a nervous wreck. I'd bet my house you are perfectly fine and I dont even know you. Get that STD test done so you can relax. Talk to your doc about ways to calm yourself as you are far too uptight.

This is just your anxiety talking. Try to stay calm and get it checked out. It's kinda like screaming Brain Tumor when all you have is a mild headache.

Thank you all for your replies, I appreciate it. I have noticed though a dull pain in my neck (lymph nodes I'm assuming), do you think that's also just in my head?

Make sure you discuss all this with your therapist/psychiatrist.

I am however being treated for major depression, anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive disorder.

Make sure you discuss all this with your therapist/psychiatrist.

Unfortunately my doctor isn't the best, and I'm afraid to tell her a lot of my issues as I'm fearful she'll overreact and think I'm in worse psychological condition than she thought.

Her knowing you have OCD is better than you thinking you have hiv/aids.

my doctor isn't the best, and I'm I'm afraid to tell her a lot of my issues as I'm fearful she'll overreact and think I'm in worse psychological condition than she thought.

My doctor is well aware of my Anxiety/depression and OCD. For the most part my symptoms are controlled but for the past couple of weeks for some reason I've been worse than usual. I plan on seeing my psychiatrist as soon as possible. On that note, you find it unlikely I have any STDs (including HIV)?

Highly unlikely. However if you were that intoxicated it sounds like this girl sexually abused you and that is NOT ok. I really highly doubt you have HIV . Really really talk to your psychiatrist about your mental state and about what happened .

Unfortunately my doctor isn't the best, and I'm afraid to tell her a lot of my issues as I'm fearful she'll overreact and think I'm in worse psychological condition than she thought.

In my opinion, if you're trying to get help from a specialist, you must be completely open and honest. Otherwise you're working against yourself.

To your original question, I'll back up the rest of the opinions here - it's really really highly unlikely. But do that test for your own peace of mind.

Also, if you're attracted to girls and the idea of sex, you need to somehow address the issue of viewing it as an unclean act.

Get tested for your own peace of mind, then in the future, do not have sex with a woman unless you use protection at all times and preferably after you get to know her over time enough to talk about protection and concerns.

In my opinion, if you're trying to get help from a specialist, you must be completely open and honest. Otherwise you're working against yourself.

To your original question, I'll back up the rest of the opinions here - it's really really highly unlikely. But do that test for your own peace of mind.

 

Also, if you're attracted to girls and the idea of sex, you need to somehow address the issue of viewing it as an unclean act.

Waiting for a relationship might dispell the unclean view -- one night stands and hook ups with women of unknown disease status etc, might be making him feel dirty - unless he is OCD about germs - then all sex will be dirty because it involves fluid and other people's potential germs -- and that is different than sexual shame

Roughly .01% chance of hiv but 100% chance of OCD, replete with obsessions about sex being dirty and fear of having been contaminated, etc.

Unfortunately my doctor isn't the best, and I'm afraid to tell her a lot of my issues as I'm fearful she'll overreact and think I'm in worse psychological condition than she thought.

If you are keeping things from your doctor... you probably ARE in worse condition than she thinks.

Why do you not trust your doctor? If you have a valid reason outside of your anxiety, you should find another doctor who you can trust with the whole picture and not just pieces.

That’s the thing doctors can’t treat you if they only have half a picture .

My doctor is well aware of my Anxiety/depression and OCD. For the most part my symptoms are controlled but for the past couple of weeks for some reason I've been worse than usual. I plan on seeing my psychiatrist as soon as possible. On that note, you find it unlikely I have any STDs (including HIV)?

The statistics don't really matter. If you have sex, protected or not, you need to get a regular STD screening. I had unprotected sex with my last boyfriend and I spent so much time (over a year) being anxious about STDs, including HIV. Rip the band-aid off and get the test done. Don't waste any more time worrying about something that may not even be an issue

R.N here

I can't believe your physician didn't test you for STDs when you may have had unprotected sex! OP, PLEASE get a new doctor asap! What he/she is doing is negligent borderline reckless!

Even people who have been married for 20 years get annual STD screenings. I can't believe your doc didn't do this. His/her decision to not test you claiming that you seem healthy is the most ignorant thing I've ever heard from a medical professional considering many STDs are asymptomatic.

Please get a new physician and get a full STD panel done

As far as your worries go, HIV isn't nearly as common with the hetero population as it is with gay men, prostitutes and IV drug users. People may blast me for saying that but it's the truth. I don't think you need to worry about that even though it's always a possibility.

Some people experience flu like symptoms 2 to 3 months after contracting the disease (fever, stuffy nose, chills, night sweats). But there is no way of knowing until you are tested... which your doc should have done!

If the sexual encounter was recent, get the 5 minute antigen test. If it has been longer than 6 months, get the standard antibody test.

But again, you're probably worrying for nothing and just have a cold.

Get some rest, drink plenty of water and eat a healthy diet. I wish you the very best and keep us posted. Remember to breathe.

Do you have health insurance? Why did you decline the tests at that time?

I have a complete physical done in April complete with blood/urine work but my doctor said they weren't going to test for STDs as I thought I seemed perfectly healthy.

Do you have health insurance? Why did you decline the tests at that time?

I wrote that wrong: the doctor thought I was perfectly fine so he didn't feel the need for me to get tested. Yes I do have insurance.

Thank you for your reply! I requested an appointment to have an STD screening performed. The encounter was late February/early March so it's too late for the 5 minute test, correct? When I was 13 I was so convinced I had HIV (despite being a virgin) that I unfortunately know a lot of the symptoms. That's what I'm afraid of now; are these symptoms are real or if it's in my head.

R.N here

 

I can't believe your physician didn't test you for STDs when you may have had unprotected sex! OP, PLEASE get a new doctor asap! What he/she is doing is negligent borderline reckless!

 

Even people who have been married for 20 years get annual STD screenings. I can't believe your doc didn't do this. His/her decision to not test you claiming that you seem healthy is the most ignorant thing I've ever heard from a medical professional considering many STDs are asymptomatic.

 

Please get a new physician and get a full STD panel done

 

As far as your worries go, HIV isn't nearly as common with the hetero population as it is with gay men, prostitutes and IV drug users. People may blast me for saying that but it's the truth. I don't think you need to worry about that even though it's always a possibility.

 

Some people experience flu like symptoms 2 to 3 months after contracting the disease (fever, stuffy nose, chills, night sweats). But there is no way of knowing until you are tested... which your doc should have done!

 

If the sexual encounter was recent, get the 5 minute antigen test. If it has been longer than 6 months, get the standard antibody test.

 

But again, you're probably worrying for nothing and just have a cold.

 

Get some rest, drink plenty of water and eat a healthy diet. I wish you the very best and keep us posted. Remember to breathe.

Thank you for your reply! I requested an appointment to have an STD screening performed. The encounter was late February/early March so it's too late for the 5 minute test, correct? When I was 13 I was so convinced I had HIV (despite being a virgin) that I unfortunately know a lot of the symptoms. That's what I'm afraid of now; are these symptoms are real or if it's in my head.

Thank you for your reply! I requested an appointment to have an STD screening performed. The encounter was late February/early March so it's too late for the 5 minute test, correct? When I was 13 I was so convinced I had HIV (despite being a virgin) that I unfortunately know a lot of the symptoms. That's what I'm afraid of now; are these symptoms are real or if it's in my head.

You are still ruminating over that encounter and have not gotten tested all this time if it was that long ago? i think it is almost enough time to show up if its there. just get tested for a whole battery of STDs to ease your mind so you can move on. I think you need to get yourself into therapy if you thought you had an STD at 13 and it really bothered you.

Thank you for your reply! I requested an appointment to have an STD screening performed. The encounter was late February/early March so it's too late for the 5 minute test, correct? When I was 13 I was so convinced I had HIV (despite being a virgin) that I unfortunately know a lot of the symptoms. That's what I'm afraid of now; are these symptoms are real or if it's in my head.

I can empathize with you quite a bit. Despite being an R.N, I'm terrified of being a patient! I think I have every disease in the book so I get it. Most likely you are just fine. Just bite the bullet and get the testing done. Breathe my friend.

It's too late for the 5 minute antigen test, unfortunately. But that's ok, just get the standard antibody test done.

Please do consider getting a new physician though. Many STDs don't cause any symptoms and your doc should know that. So for him/her to tell you you don't need to get tested because you appear to be healthy means a) they don't care or b) they're lazy. Either way, you're better off with a new doc that actually cares about your well being.

In the meantime, don't use google for any symptoms you might have. Leave that up to your health care provider. I'm sure you're fine though so please don't stress it too much

Excellent. However keep in mind that the underlying issue of OCD will persist and you will perpetually "feel dirty" having sex and will obsess over being contaminated in one way or the other then be compelled to research all potential symptoms online and have multiple tests, etc.

Keep in mind the OC stands for obsessions and compulsions. The obsessions are the thoughts and the compulsions are the actions to relieve those thoughts. For example when these tests come back negative/normal you will then worry about some other disease or contamination, etc. and want more tests or more doctors appointments with more purported symptoms of something.

Sadly people with OCD often go through a plethora of tests and procedures to find and remove whatever disease or contamination they fear (obsess) that they might have.

When I was 13 I was so convinced I had HIV (despite being a virgin)

Hello guys, I thought I'd give an update: I'm getting a complete physical done with labs next Friday. I called and asked to schedule an STD screening and was told the physical examination is part of this screening. I'll be sure to have blood drawn for testing this time. I work Monday-Thursday nights so next Friday is the soonest appointment I can make. Do you think that's too long of a wait?