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    What should I do?!

    Okay! It's been almost after 1.5 years I began dating a guy!
    This Guy had a crush on me and has confessed me in the beginning of this month. Initially I was reluctant to date him but he has somehow convinced me and forced me to reconsider his proposal, so after a series of his indirect request to date him, I began dating him about two weeks ago. Now all of a sudden he said he can't see any future with me at all, and he's sure of nothing is going to work out between us. He still loves his ex and have feelings for her (he was with her ex 3years ago) even after such a long time of separation from her ex he still feels for her and not only that he now wants to end thing but he's afraid of hurting me. I just don't get it what should I do?
    Two weeks of online chat made him have feelings for me and also to now no feelings at all?
    I know I should break up immediately, but even I don't have enough guts to call it off. Perhaps I am so much addicted to him.
    What should I do, and how should I leave my addiction behind. And not check whether he's online or what is he up to?
    Please help!

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    Originally Posted by Elavohra
    Okay! It's been almost after 1.5 years I began dating a guy!
    This Guy had a crush on me and has confessed me in the beginning of this month. Initially I was reluctant to date him but he has somehow convinced me and forced me to reconsider his proposal, so after a series of his indirect request to date him, I began dating him about two weeks ago. Now all of a sudden he said he can't see any future with me at all, and he's sure of nothing is going to work out between us. He still loves his ex and have feelings for her (he was with her ex 3years ago) even after such a long time of separation from her ex he still feels for her and not only that he now wants to end thing but he's afraid of hurting me. I just don't get it what should I do?
    Two weeks of online chat made him have feelings for me and also to now no feelings at all?
    I know I should break up immediately, but even I don't have enough guts to call it off. Perhaps I am so much addicted to him.
    What should I do, and how should I leave my addiction behind. And not check whether he's online or what is he up to?
    Please help!

    I believe after a while you get to know them after a while and find out their flaws. Not only that when you chase someone after a while for so long the romance or excitement dies down and when you finally get them someone out to date them Its like an anti-climax. Ive been here so I'm like your friend.

    However he`s now turned the tables around and now hes not interested and as you know. Humans have a habit of wanting things they CAN`T have.
    You have to ask yourself do you really want to be with him because early on from the start you were reluctant to date him.

    Using an ex is an excuse to want to back out because he did spend 1.5 years chasing after you. If you don't feel it then call it off because the longer you lave it the harder it will to end things.

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    He just texted me and said he needs to end things between us! And he'll call me at 6:30 and will explain. It's hurting so much, so very much!

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    Have you ever met in person? It sounds like this is not an ex. He will probably delete and block you because he feels guilty or his gf/wife "ex" found out. So don't worry about this "addiction" or what to do next.

    Have you tried dating apps and dating local guys you can meet for coffee in a timely fashion, so at least you know who they really are?
    Originally Posted by Elavohra
    He still loves his ex and have feelings for her
    Two weeks of online chat made him have feelings!

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    Originally Posted by SweetGirl28
    Please say you didn't have sex with him , that would truly suck if you did and then he says this to you.

    Forget him. He's using the ex as an excuse. You weren't so into to him it seems, so no worries that he wants to end it. He's just crushing your ego a bit, that's why you care. Delete him from your social media and find a guy who wants a relationship. You're not addicted to him after two weeks. The mind is powerful. Redirect your thoughts away from him.
    No, we didn't have sex, we were long distance though I had strong vibe that he was just fulfilling his sexual desire because he used to get horny and have always talked about kiss and sucking my boobs. Though I used to dodge his sexual talks in the middle because I wasn't able to read all that and used to find it so cheap. I was now quiet into him... and it's feeling like a breakup hurt!

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    No I didn't meet him in person! We just studied together for about 3 months 1.5 years ago..

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    Originally Posted by SweetGirl28
    Turn the tables. Text back you agree, and wish him well. Why do you need an explanation?
    I don't need any explation but I want to hear, what he wants to say. Shall I answer his call or text? Please guide me.

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    So this is based on 2 weeks of text chat?
    Originally Posted by Elavohra
    No I didn't meet him in person

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    So this is based on 2 weeks of text chat?
    Two weeks of intense chatting! Yes, I know it sounds so weird and dumb as well! I feel, I am such a fool person!

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    Originally Posted by SweetGirl28
    Yes. Answer with what I said previous lol. If you want to know why then answer when he calls, but don't text him back.
    If he doesn't call, no loss to you, honestly. There's guys IRL that would like a relationship in person.
    Okay! I will definitely let you know what he has to say! I hope I'll not loose control.

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