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Thread: Lack of sexual interest in relationship

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    Lack of sexual interest in relationship

    Iím a guy in his 20s whoís in a committed relationship (my first ever relationship) of 8 months with my boyfriend whoís also 20.
    Heís had previous relationships and has had a sexual relationship with his previous girlfriend, however he doesnít seem to take any interest in me sexually.
    Iíve tried to hint and make advances over the period of our relationship though none of these have led anywhere and I end up feeling kind of down and lacking in confidence.
    Heís really honest and isnít very afraid of speaking his mind and I recently found out one night (after a couple of drinks) that he hasnít had a, to my knowledge, single sexual thought about me.
    Iíve asked him about whether he wants to take our relationship further in that sense and heís said that he does though heís just nervous as he hasnít had experience with a guy before.
    The worry is still in my mind though that he may be saying that to soften the blow in-case he really doesnít find me attractive in that way.
    I love him so much and I really want to stay with him but at the same time Iím scared that my sexual attraction to him may never be returned and that Iíll have to put up with these one-way desires throughout our relationship.
    Iím willing to wait to see if anything does happen but Iím not sure how long I should, or when I should maybe ask him about his feelings.
    Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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    Well, I was going to say that maybe he was a newbie and you mentioned that midway through your posting. Are you saying that the two of you haven't had sex yet? And he hasn't had any gay sex? I think you may be barking up the wrong tree here.

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    Sounds like you do not have a romantic relationship with this person. At best you might have a straight guy to suck off or engage in other sex with but don't confuse this with anything else.

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    Are you sure he's not more straight than bi or gay? Don't be his experiment in same-sex sex/relationships. And don't take his confusion/hesitation personally.
    Originally Posted by Bestteal
    Heís had previous relationships and has had a sexual relationship with his previous girlfriend, however he doesnít seem to take any interest in me sexually. heís just nervous as he hasnít had experience with a guy before.

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