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Thread: Help?? Am i possibly dating a married man??

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    Platinum Member figureitout23's Avatar
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    Originally Posted by Chrys31
    I said if I decide to meet I need evidence of what's going on
    And what is that exactly?

    Maybe that'll help you recognize the cycle you're in. Because before it was if he's married I can't be with him now it's if he's not really seperated I can be with him, which fine your life your prerogative.

    What would need to happen for you to say this is not going to happen. You are vaguely setting your boundaries, but again they're so vague you can easily move the line you've drawn.

    So before you even go. What's your limit?

    Not legally married? Still married and not seperated?

    What if he's lying about the marriage not being legal? Is that a limit?

    Set your boundaries now. I think if you do, if you write them out and this meeting inevitably breaks one of them, hes lying about something, Im sorry you can not divorce someone you aren't legally married to, you can't be legally seperated from someone you aren't legally tied to, when he inevitably breaks a boundary you will be able to see in black and white that you are a willing participant in this roller coaster.

    Instead of the boy who cried wolf, it's the girl who cried cheat.

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    Originally Posted by figureitout23
    And what is that exactly?

    Maybe that'll help you recognize the cycle you're in. Because before it was if he's married I can't be with him now it's if he's not really seperated I can be with him, which fine your life your prerogative.

    What would need to happen for you to say this is not going to happen. You are vaguely setting your boundaries, but again they're so vague you can easily move the line you've drawn.

    So before you even go. What's your limit?

    Not legally married? Still married and not seperated?

    What if he's lying about the marriage not being legal? Is that a limit?

    Set your boundaries now. I think if you do, if you write them out and this meeting inevitably breaks one of them, hes lying about something, Im sorry you can not divorce someone you aren't legally married to, you can't be legally seperated from someone you aren't legally tied to, when he inevitably breaks a boundary you will be able to see in black and white that you are a willing participant in this roller coaster.

    Instead of the boy who cried wolf, it's the girl who cried cheat.
    today he contacted me after the argument we had on Fri to ask me about my weekend and tell me he feels ill about the work.

    he told me today he has the intervie about that job and he hopes there is a good package.

    I just said i wish him the best.

    If he thinks I am going to stick around if he leaves he is deluded

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    i think in general he lied to me because based on the fact that he had that situation and he essentially was planning to leave, i wouldnt be dating him at the first place. but he played along

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    I can't...

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    Or obviously lying about his marriage/separation. Why not just end it with this many red flags and deal breakers?
    Originally Posted by Chrys31
    If he thinks I am going to stick around if he leaves he is deluded

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Or obviously lying about his marriage/separation. Why not just end it with this many red flags and deal breakers?

    To be honest i am starting thinking this is the most possible scenario.

    I am thinking to block this time waster on whats app and move on

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    Originally Posted by Chrys31
    I need to get the full truth regardless
    No, you really don't.

    Originally Posted by Chrys31
    I am thinking to block this time waster on whats app and move on
    No, you probably won't.

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    Originally Posted by j.man
    No, you really don't.

    No, you probably won't.
    ok sir

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    Originally Posted by j.man
    No, you really don't.

    No, you probably won't.
    True

    OP seems to feed off of drama

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