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    Is my boyfriend gay?

    Iíve been dating this guy for 1.5 years. Heís 34 and Iím 26, heís had several girlfriends in the past that didnít work out for him which Iíve alwsys wondered why. Heís good looking, has his career set, educated, well spoken, has tons of hobbies and friends. I also liked that he didnít talk to other women, look at pics or porn. He claimed he rarely masturbated as well and our sex life was great!! The other day, however, I found a large chest full of realistic looking dildos, massively sized and of different colors (bbc included). There were at least 15 of them in this box.. I confronted him about this and he claims he got into anal play with his past girlfriend an ever since then heís collected more over the course of 15 years, and thatís how he masturbates when heís single or Iím away for some time. He doesnít hook up with women heíll only have sex within a relationship. I even found some fake sperm, which he claims couldíve been from the past gf. Heís really embarrassed by it and doesnít want anyone to know because he always puts up this image that heís a very manly guy amongst his friends and family, and said if they found out heíd have to move away. I feel like heís probably gay because heís so afraid of his image, or at least bi, because I had no idea about this until I found his stash. Iím not sure if I can be with someone who wasnít truthful to himself or me about his sexuality and was willing to hide it forever or was going to ďget rid of itĒ. Which makes no sense because it seems like he really enjoys this with the collection he has, he would be repressing himself of his desires. I canít see him the same way anymore which is what he was afraid of, but I wish he had just been honest from the start. Is he being truthful about just enjoying the prostrate pleasure aspect or is his sexuality questionable? I understand experimenting and having some toys but these toys are extremely realistic and I donít think a ďstraightĒ man would be ok with playing around with them.
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    Where did you "find" this box? Was this before or after the 3 week "break"?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Where did you "find" this box?
    They were blatantly sitting in his closet and I never thought to look until yesterday. He had two chests. One mid size and one large. I thought they were full of shoes and was sorely mistaken. It was after the break that I looked, itís always been there.

    He also had a female sex doll but the phallic objects are what are concerning.

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    Was the chest open? Or did you actually go through it?

    What was decided after the "break" that he asked for?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Was the chest open? Or did you actually go through it?

    What was decided after the "break" that he asked for?
    We decided to continue and go to his cousins wedding the following weekend. I opened the chest to look for shoes he might have for the wedding while he was in the other room and found all this. He said with the limited space he has in his condo he didnít know where else to put this stuff. Lol.

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    Well...lots of heterosexual men enjoy anal play. Just like many straight men like nipple play.

    Did he actually say he's afraid of what his family and friends would think? In other words, did he say yes, he is gay?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Well...lots of heterosexual men enjoy anal play. Just like many straight men like nipple play.

    Did he actually say he's afraid of what his family and friends would think? In other words, did he say yes, he is gay?
    He never said yes Iím gay but he did admit heís afraid of what his friends and fam would think of him doing all this. Iím the only person in his life who knows now. I also questioned his sexuality and he said heís not sure how he would answer that. He claims he doesnít want to be with men at all and likes women. But Iím not sure if heís telling the truth or not :(

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    One would expect the answer to be a yes or a no. Or maybe that he's interested in exploring.

    Do you think or fear that you have been his "beard"?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    One would expect the answer to be a yes or a no. Or maybe that he's interested in exploring.

    Do you think or fear that you have been his "beard"?
    Yes thatís exactly it. Heís all about his image. I just need to know where he stands sexually, because right now I feel like Iíve been his cover up. He doesnít like answering my questions regarding it though theyíve been straightforward and reasonable. He says itís ďnot as big of a deal as Iím making it out to beĒ and heíd throw it all away if he felt he needed to. But he likes these dildos in him...thatís his thing. Why do that to yourself just to have some girl ?

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    So you have a great sex life with him?

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