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Thread: Is my boyfriend gay?

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    Originally Posted by shellyf62
    So you have a great sex life with him?
    Yea everything seems good. Itís the stash that worries me.

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    If your sex life has been great, then I think you don't have too much to worry about

    It real isn't his family and friends business about any of this.

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    I think if your sex life is good then this is a kink that he has.
    I can understand why he doesnt want anyone to know, and I agree that what happens in the bedroom is nobodies business but the people involved.

    I suppose you have to decide if you want to stay with him now that you have found this side of him.

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    My ex also has a collection of dildos. I found out about them because he was having them delivered to his family's business and his brother in law told me that he said I had ordered them (or that they were for me). I had never seen any of them.

    His current girlfriend uses a strap-on to have anal sex with him (yes, he is the receiver). I found out this bit of information because they got walked in on one time and his friends blabbed. Unfortunately, his family members saw fit to inform me although it really is none of my business since we were already broken up.

    I had suspected he was a closeted gay or bisexual man. He had magazines too (also allegedly mine) and he had some close gay friends who he would spend time with alone. His current girlfriend (the one he dumped me for) has a very boyish figure...no breasts, butt or hips at all and wears a ball cap all the time. In fact, another friend saw them together and thought the girlfriend was his son!

    To be honest, it really didn't bother me all that much. I presumed he was attracted to men AND women. I just found it sad that he felt the need to hide who he truly was. He too was ashamed and afraid of what his family and friends would think (although most of them know).

    Can you accept this side of your boyfriend? Or is it something you'd break up with him over?

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    Wait... so do you think that gay men get off to having a penis up their rectum just by virtue of it being an actual dude humping him? Look, I'm not a guy who's got any inkling to go the anal route, but the prostate isn't exactly the world's best kept secret. Yes, closeted gay men have performed for purposes of getting a wife pregnant, but it'd be quite a feat for one to fake his way into a "great sex life." I'm not sure why you'd jump to that conclusion he's full on gay. Seems about as ignorant as a guy not understanding a woman having a double headed vibrator.

    I mean, yeah. If you've rather arbitrarily lost respect for him now, I guess your choice is limited. I'd say, in the future, let a guy collect his own shoes rather than digging through his closets and chests. Generally speaking, we're not gonna create secret compartments for our more racey items like the SS is gonna show up for a surprise visit. If it's not yours, don't go through it, particularly if you're sensitive when it comes to more private materials.

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    It's funny, you're doing exactly what he was afraid of, in other words, telling the world about the 15 dildos in his closet! Luckily, we don't know who you are and who he is. But as you explained in a previous post, you guys have bigger problems than 15 dildos. He hasn't shown a commitment to you. There's an 8-year age gap. You're of different religions. And I don't think he will ever want a family. There's a lot of reasons to move on.

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    You seem to have a lot of suspicions and very little respect for him. Additionally you are the one hiding things from your strict family you still live with.
    Originally Posted by sadgirl19
    Heís also hinted several times that heís not ready to have kids or take on responsibilities. His flaws would be that heís egotistical, a terrible listener, prideful, self absorbed, dismissive, can be disrespectful and narcissistic. Heís s very good looking guy, smart, has a lot of hobbies, friends and is well educated.

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    Originally Posted by sadgirl19
    He never said yes Iím gay but he did admit heís afraid of what his friends and fam would think of him doing all this. (
    This just begs the question - who tells their family members about their sexual preferences? I know I never have.

    Sexual preferences are totally separate from sexual orientation. Not sure what he's afraid of or maybe I am reading too much into this comment.

    For what ever it's worth, I had an ex who liked the same thing. I can't lie, it did make me question things at times.
    We were together for about a year and half before he shared this with me. And then things fell apart.

    I don't think it's too uncommon. Nevertheless, the knowledge and the suggestion I entertain it made me uncomfortable.
    Sorry, but true.
    Last edited by reinventmyself; 06-06-2018 at 02:39 PM.

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    Originally Posted by SweetGirl28
    Wth is fake sperm? From a past gf? What?? Do you mean dried body fluids on the dildos?

    Not thinking he's gay. Thinking he likes anal play which many men won't admit or explore.
    I have seen someone give a stuffed animal that looks like the shape of a sperm with a cute face as a gag gift. I have seen bacteria stuffed animals, tooo. If its a gag gift sort of thing - i wouldn't worry about it. If that is what you mean by fake sperm.

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    Originally Posted by SweetGirl28
    Wth is fake sperm? From a past gf? What?? Do you mean dried body fluids on the dildos?

    Not thinking he's gay. Thinking he likes anal play which many men won't admit or explore.
    Itís legitimate fake semen in a bottle you can fill your toy c*cks with. The bottles were used and the toys had holes and syringes you can fill it up with. Iím pretty sure those are for his pleasure?

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