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Thread: 25 year age gap

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    Originally Posted by j.man
    I can't say I have much experience with 40+ year olds chatting me up as a romantic prospect when I was 16, much less those who were cheating on their partner during that time. I'm not sure how I can put it nicely, but it is out of genuine concern that I suggest perhaps not throwing your trust money into a business if this is any reflection of the state and quality of your decision making. I would, however, suggest putting some of that money into a reputable therapist to help you navigate why any of this was ever considered an option so that you can then grow and learn as someone entering adulthood should have the opportunity to.
    That will be money wisely spent.

    I would also keep an eye on him, when you bring your friends and siblings around.

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    I really hope you people will stop being so discriminatory about the age.

    Love is love at any age, even if she is 70 years old and he is 18 years old.

    I can't understand the level of discrimination people must face just because of their age.

    I thought there are also some strong laws that say that noone should be discriminated based on their age

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    Originally Posted by Mark33
    I really hope you people will stop being so discriminatory about the age.

    Love is love at any age, even if she is 70 years old and he is 18 years old.

    I can't understand the level of discrimination people must face just because of their age.

    I thought there are also some strong laws that say that noone should be discriminated based on their age
    So -- you would advise your young 18-22 year old sister to date a man who has a girlfriend? And who started dating or targetting her when she was a minor? Apparently you don't have a daughter, niece or sister because if you did, you would tell her to run away from an older man like that. "discrimination" is telling two 90 year olds who are in love that they can't marry/shouldn't marry because of their age - that its pointless or telling someone they should not date another person who grew up in their neighborhood simply because of their skin color. If protecting young people from predators or from getting preyed upon by users is "discrimination", then i'd be happy to be called someone who is prejudiced.

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    Originally Posted by Mark33
    I really hope you people will stop being so discriminatory about the age.

    Love is love at any age, even if she is 70 years old and he is 18 years old.

    I can't understand the level of discrimination people must face just because of their age.

    I thought there are also some strong laws that say that noone should be discriminated based on their age
    There are so many things that "love" can mean. The chances that he loves her the same way she loves him are very very low.

    To the OP: just because you feel something doesn't mean you have to act on it. Don't give him any of your trust fund money. If he needs money from an 18-year old at his age to move out of his girlfriends place, then he is probably using you. (Regardless, he is probably using you, but if there is money involved that pretty much guarantees it). I am curious, what was your working relationship? Were you at the same level, or was he a superior?

    I don't know what your family is like, but they are probably going to have a cow when you tell them. You need to tell them anyway. My biggest fear though, is this: 1. you tell them, 2. they don't approve 3. you fight about it and 4. you decide to keep going with him anyway while also leaving your family behind.

    All I can say, because you are going to do what you are going to do, is if your family has loved you in the past, understand that even if you don't see things eye to eye, that they are acting out of love. Try not to cut them off completely if they have been good to you before, no matter what choice you make.

    You seem like a smart girl, I hope you will be OK!

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