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    Helping children cope

    Recently split with childís father. Very long and toxic relationship (read previous post), however Iím trying to help my daughter deal with it. Currently there is a TPO in place until 10.17 and he cannot visit her, but he can talk to her. He hasnít attempted to call yet, I imagine because i put him out that his pride is hurting. This morning she said she misses him and wants to see him, and I donít want her to be in school sad. What can I do to make this process smooth. Itís only been three days since I officially put him out and got TPO (temporary protection order).

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    Family therapy would help you cope and help you communicate with your child about parents splitting up. Do not let a child's emotions run to your separation but address them promptly with expert family counselling.

    You also need to get a supervised visitation order in place and child support. Do not let him pick her up or visit at school, etc. Abductions in violent situations are very common as a pawn. Is the protection order for only you? Or only your home? Does it encompass your child, her school and your workplace? Get your ducks in a row legally to protect your child and do not let the understandable musing of a child stop you from protecting her and yourself. Be smart.
    Originally Posted by undeniedshe
    she said she misses him and wants to see him

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    Honestly, I would seek the advice of an experienced family therapist on this one.

    Your situation is more delicate than most break-ups, and navigating this with a child is going to be tricky. Do you have counseling services in your area you could reach out to?

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    I would tell her that her dad was bad and he's in time out until the 17th. But if she wants to talk to him, hand her the telephone.

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