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    Seeing two Drs

    I have been seeing my regular gp for almost 10 years, last year I fell ill and have a complex medical problem, she is a good dr but a lot of things now she puts down to ďa bad nervous systemĒ I wasnít happy with this so went to other Drs who did blood test which results are all over the place, i want to keep her as my main dr because she deals with my return to work documents, but I went to her again today with another complaint and she said ďthatíll be your nervous systemĒ when I know itís not as Iíve had a scan with the other gp and it shows a problem. I donít know if I should tell her Iíve been seeing other Drs and show her what they have found or what? I feel so guilty for going behind her back and seeing other Drs but it is my health and my body and Iím afraid sheís missing things and if I only stuck to her a lot would have been missed that could potentially affect my life and length of it. My main question is how do I share the results with her without her getting mad at me for seeing other Drs behind her back??? If it wasnít for my work documents I would stop going to her but she has to fill in the forms as Iím only back at work part time due to my health..

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    You owe no loyalty to your doctor. Also, she sounds so glib and incompetent that I question the veracity of this story. If its real, I don't see why you'd go to the first doctor at all.

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    Originally Posted by IAmFCA
    You owe no loyalty to your doctor. Also, she sounds so glib and incompetent that I question the veracity of this story. If its real, I don't see why you'd go to the first doctor at all.
    My first dr was good for basic things, such as Pap smears, tonsillitis stuff like that. Now that I have something complex going on Iíve realised sheís not that good and is happy to pin it all on my overactive nervous system - she hasnít done a blood test in over 6 months even though I complain of how exhausted I am when the other dr did one they saw my haemoglobin had dropped significantly as well as other electrolytes and said something is definitely wrong the hard part is figuring out what, The only reason I still go to her is because she is the dr in charge of my return to work paperwork (can only work part time due to this sickness) which I have to get done monthly. If it wasnít for that I wouldnít bother going back to her at all.

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    Originally Posted by Boo1986
    - she hasnít done a blood test in over 6 months even though I complain of how exhausted I am.
    Why not request she does another blood test? It is your right. If she refuses, then you simply tell her you're going to go for a second opinion and leave. You don't have to return. Simply go back to the second doctor if you're happy with him/her.

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    Originally Posted by Capricorn3
    Why not request she does another blood test? It is your right. If she refuses, then you simply tell her you're going to go for a second opinion and leave. You don't have to return. Simply go back to the second doctor if you're happy with him/her.
    I did that in the past, when the last blood test she did (6months or so ago) I saw my calcium had spiked and I wanted a repeat in a few weeks but she got stroppy and said ďI need to stop worrying and let her be the drĒ and that it was normal (I do know a bit about blood as I work in pathology) and wanted to put me on anti depressants when I know for a fact Iím not depressed. Everything I have complained about health wise has turned out to be something, hence itís definitely not in my head. I just feel like I have my hands tied with the return to work paperwork

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    Originally Posted by Boo1986
    I did that in the past, when the last blood test she did (6months or so ago) I saw my calcium had spiked and I wanted a repeat in a few weeks but she got stroppy and said ďI need to stop worrying and let her be the drĒ and that it was normal (I do know a bit about blood as I work in pathology) and wanted to put me on anti depressants when I know for a fact Iím not depressed. Everything I have complained about health wise has turned out to be something, hence itís definitely not in my head. I just feel like I have my hands tied with the return to work paperwork
    I dont get why doctors are so quick to put people on anti depressants.

    Anyhow, it sounds worrying, so I would just register with the 2nd Dr and maybe write to her boss, as this could next be a cancer diagnosis with someone missed.

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    You are free to get second opinions. Why not get a referral to a specialist, get properly diagnosed and treated and learn about what your medical conditions are and how to best manage them.

    Are you afraid other doctors will confer with her and she will no longer approve your disability/return to work documents? Is she a company physician or someone you must use as your primary care physician because of an insurance network? Why does she need the results of your other tests?
    Originally Posted by Boo1986
    i want to keep her as my main dr because she deals with my return to work documents
    Iím afraid sheís missing things
    If it wasnít for my work documents I would stop going to her but she has to fill in the forms as Iím only back at work part time due to my health..
    Last edited by Wiseman2; 02-19-2019 at 06:46 AM.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    You are free to get second opinions. Why not get a referral to a specialist, get properly diagnosed and treated and learn about what your medical conditions are and how to best manage them.

    Are you afraid other doctors will confer with her and she will no longer approve your disability/return to work documents? Is she a company physician or someone you must use as your primary care physician because of an insurance network? Why does she need the results of your other tests?
    I have to use her as my primary care one as she has been handling my return to work plan and not sure I could just switch it over to another dr very easily. Iím happy with the new dr Iím seeing and he seems like he is going to find out what exactly is causing me to be so sick. I wanted her to have the results of my other tests so she is kept in the loop with whatís going on with my health (as I still will have to see her for work purposes). Itís such a hard situation. I have told her in the past Iíve had to go to other Drs as I canít get into her sometimes for 3 weeks so I will just say that happened again and they found some odd results on my blood tests and go from there... I donít want to offend her but in the end itís my health on the line and I guess if anyone is to feel bad it will be her for dismissing a lot of my concerns that have turned out to be actually something wrong and not just my nervous system

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    If she is incompetent, a quack, unethical or someone who just signs disability papers, sending her results is pointless because it will not change her level of competency or lack of ethical practices.. If you are hoping these abnormalities extend your disability and she is not willing to then there is an ethical dilemma all the way around.

    Why not follow up with the doctors who are doing the tests/treatments that help you? You can't make her competent by sending her results. Why can't the doctors you are seeing for further testing continue to treat you?

    It very unclear why you need to send her results. It's very unclear why you are not being referred to a neurologist or whatever area the symptoms or supposed abnormalities are. Aren't you entitled to see certain specialists? Surely she has taken routine tests? And given you more a than vague quack 'diagnoses'?
    Originally Posted by Boo1986
    I have to use her as my primary care one as she has been handling my return to work plan and not sure I could just switch it over to another dr very easily.

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    I had a medical issue, long story, but it took me FIVE doctors to get a proper diagnosis. I even scheduled surgery with 2 different ones, and I kept canceling and getting yet another opinion. I finally had the 5th doctor do my surgery, with outstanding results. Turned out, the first 4 were completely, totally inaccurate in their diagnoses. It took a sharp 5th doctor to order a scan none of the others had, which is where he found the problem.

    I live in one of the best cities in the US for medical care, and each doctor was one of the ďbestĒ. I have excellent insurance, so I was able to get into each doctor right away. The missed diagnoses were astonishing to me.

    I now do this with everything medical. I recently had bunion surgeries on both feet, again, excellent results, but again, after seeing multiple doctors. The one who did the surgeries was so outstanding that heís now done 3 of my friends.

    Itís your body. See whoever you wish.

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