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Thread: I知 lost! I wanted to have a baby from my married man lover

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    I知 lost! I wanted to have a baby from my married man lover

    Hi All, first pls don稚 judge me. I知 seeking your advice here in my situation.

    I知 married for almost 6yrs. During my first 4years was great with my husband, deeply in love and intimate. But my husband have a usual habit of hiding things on me, in terms of his gambling habit and tends to take my own money without my permission. It was a repetitive scenes for the past year and i ended up seeing myself of being tired dealing with him. I知 tired of being too good.

    To cut the story... i look for someone that I can talk and start new friendships (only). I ended up meeting this man (54 yo right now) while I知 only (30 yo). I didn稚 care much on the age gap bec for what i know i just need someone to talk and share my thoughts. But We end up with intimacy relationship. Both of us are married and he have 1 daughter that he loves dearly. From the start, I知 the one who fell in love so deeply. I tried to escape this toxic relationship but I couldn稚. He still look for me after 3 weeks.
    After that, the fire grows even more.

    We already seeing and messaging each other almost everyday for almost 2years. The longer it is, the more difficult to let go. I know one day he will leave me as he need to go back to his own country for her daughter痴 education.

    Recently, we discuss about having a baby. I was delayed for 2months, but it痴 not bec i知 pregnant. Just bec of my hormones. And he pop out with a question of 努hat am i going to do if he makes me pregnant . I answer it with honesty, i said I will keep it. But he said he was not able to support me and be with me, and having that baby will be a memory of what we have. Even he highlighted that he actually wants to have more baby. And i知 the perfect one is bec he cannot make me pregnant if he don稚 have any feelings. He loves me so he wants me to get pregnant which is i also wanted to have baby. Me and my husband don稚 have any as i lost my interest making love with him and to make a plan to have a family with him.

    I know if any case we make love he may do it, as he said he will try his best to make me pregnant. I don稚 know if it痴 the right thing to do bec i know there will be a lot of consequences and i may lose everything i have now (job, marriage, everything) if that痴 happen. But at the side of my mind i知 excited to have his baby with me and have my own child. I know it痴 a selfish act of ours that痴 make me really confused. What should i do?

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    Originally Posted by Yeppuda
    Recently, we discuss about having a baby. I was delayed for 2months, but it痴 not bec i知 pregnant. Just bec of my hormones. And he pop out with a question of 努hat am i going to do if he makes me pregnant . I answer it with honesty, i said I will keep it. But he said he was not able to support me and be with me, and having that baby will be a memory of what we have. Even he highlighted that he actually wants to have more baby. And i知 the perfect one is bec he cannot make me pregnant if he don稚 have any feelings. He loves me so he wants me to get pregnant which is i also wanted to have baby. Me and my husband don稚 have any as i lost my interest making love with him and to make a plan to have a family with him.

    I know if any case we make love he may do it, as he said he will try his best to make me pregnant. I don稚 know if it痴 the right thing to do bec i know there will be a lot of consequences and i may lose everything i have now (job, marriage, everything) if that痴 happen. But at the side of my mind i知 excited to have his baby with me and have my own child. I know it痴 a selfish act of ours that痴 make me really confused. What should i do?
    Your post makes no sense, unless you are a troll.
    In case you aren't. Does he love you or have no feelings for you?
    Does he want a baby or not?
    Do both of you seriously believe that he can't impregnate you because he has no feelings for you or is English not your first language and I misunderstood?
    By all means, the last thing you should do right now is have a baby and it's not because of the infidelity.

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    He loves me (that痴 what he say). What am I trying to say is that, if he doesn稚 love me why he wants to get me pregnant. And yes he wanted a baby with me (i知 referring To my lover). Sorry, English is not my first language. =)

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    Originally Posted by Cope
    Your post makes no sense, unless you are a troll.
    In case you aren't. Does he love you or have no feelings for you?
    Does he want a baby or not?
    Do both of you seriously believe that he can't impregnate you because he has no feelings for you or is English not your first language and I misunderstood?
    By all means, the last thing you should do right now is have a baby and it's not because of the infidelity.
    He loves me (that痴 what he say). What am I trying to say is that, if he doesn稚 love me why he wants to get me pregnant. And yes he wanted a baby with me (i知 referring To my lover). Sorry, English is not my first language. =)

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    Hi All, first pls don稚 judge me. I知 seeking your advice here in my situation.
    So you are asking for justification more so than advice. You don稚 get to tell people how they choose to respond either.

    I知 married for almost 6yrs. During my first 4years was great with my husband, deeply in love and intimate. But my husband have a usual habit of hiding things on me, in terms of his gambling habit and tends to take my own money without my permission. It was a repetitive scenes for the past year and i ended up seeing myself of being tired dealing with him.
    Then get a divorce.

    But We end up with intimacy relationship. Both of us are married and he have 1 daughter that he loves dearly.
    So you want to sabotage somebody else痴 marriage and family because you are unhappy with yours. Awesome. That speaks volumes about your character.

    How about work on yourself and your own issues with your own marriage?

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    So, you are married, but have been having an affair for the past 2 years with a man who is also married and has a kid.
    You are worried that if you get pregnant, you will lose your current situation, your job, marriage and everything. But it is okay to have an affair with a married man, just as long as you don't have a baby? But now you want to have a baby to him? But he won't be there for it?

    This is a mess.

    If your marriage is not working, you are unhappy, the right thing to do is leave the marriage. The wrong thing to do is go have sex with someone else.

    I would suggest you stop sleeping with this other guy and go tell your husband. When he asks for a divorce, take it and never get married again, as you obviously do not understand the point of marriage.

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    "I know it痴 a selfish act of ours that痴 make me really confused. What should i do?"
    - I second Cope..., sounds like Troll talk to me.

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    Originally Posted by Keyman
    So, you are married, but have been having an affair for the past 2 years with a man who is also married and has a kid.
    You are worried that if you get pregnant, you will lose your current situation, your job, marriage and everything. But it is okay to have an affair with a married man, just as long as you don't have a baby? But now you want to have a baby to him? But he won't be there for it?

    This is a mess.

    If your marriage is not working, you are unhappy, the right thing to do is leave the marriage. The wrong thing to do is go have sex with someone else.

    I would suggest you stop sleeping with this other guy and go tell your husband. When he asks for a divorce, take it and never get married again, as you obviously do not understand the point of marriage.

    Thank you Keyman

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    It does not seem like you have thought about the wellbeing of the child. At all. How will you explain this when the child asks?

    Why haven't you divorced your husband?

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    You don't honestly believe that him wanting a baby has anything to do with love? He loves you so much that he is returning to his wife! None of this makes sense.

    Why don't you end your marriage and find a single man?

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