Grinch2017 Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 I've posted a lot of threads but I really do wonder why I can't get over my ex ย Positives- Made us official Showed me off to family and friends Said and showed he loved me (holding hands said I love you, would both make food for each other go on dates) Saw me a lot during the week Would call me each morning afternoon Took me on holiday with all his family Paid for a lot 50/50 Would let me stay at his house / parents house Keys to his flat Talk about a future ย Negatives Took cocaine at home Flirted in front of me Sex toys were stolen by cousins friends friends at at 'Party' whilst he was away Called me a little cu't and spoilt b"itch Never went out just us on holiday he went golf I sat with his family Never introduced me to girls he was speaking to on nights out Druggie friends Round in the middle of the night Called me the wrong name whilst away (another girl with similar name) Cancelled on my brother for a hangover Cancelled on me for football/hangover Never could get hold of him on a night out ย Why can't I see all the negatives and just picture him me and a wedding in the future grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr ๐ Link to comment
Grinch2017 Posted April 1, 2018 Author Share Posted April 1, 2018 Also now with the ex ex (ex of the ex prior who text during our relationship) Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 Have you talked to a professional? Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 Is it possible that men are a distraction from your own life? Do you believe that life without a man is boring or pointless? Link to comment
Pleasedonot5 Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 Sheesh, a lot of those negatives would be deal breakers for me. Even some of the positives depending on how long you were together. ย Maybe you were love bombed? Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 You need to experience what a loving, caring, respectful relationship is, and then you'll see this whole thing is a s*** show. Take him off the pedestal and find a good decent guy to treat you right. Link to comment
Grinch2017 Posted April 2, 2018 Author Share Posted April 2, 2018 Holly I have spoken to a therapist two actually luckily I've started a weekly one so fingers crossed! Bolt and run no I don't think life without one is pointless I just am getting to the age of wanting to settle down! I guess that is out the window for the moment until I get better. Please do not definitely could have been love bombed he said it very early on ๐ Yes sweet girl you are correct I guess I just thought he was lovely until later on in the relationship (but still honeymoon stage) Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 Good. When you get healthy, you will find someone who treats you properly. Give yourself at least six months before dating. Link to comment
Pleasedonot5 Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 Good. When you get healthy, you will find someone who treats you properly. Give yourself at least six months before dating.Agree completely with this. Link to comment
DanZee Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 You need to move some of those positives to negatives. ย "Paid for a lot 50/50." So he never treated you to anything? What a cheap bastard! "Would let me stay at his house / parents house." You're his girlfriend. Why wouldn't he let you stay at his house? "Keys to his flat." Again, because you're his girlfriend. No skin off his nose. "Talk about a future." Yeah, but didn't mean it. "Said he loved me." But did he mean it? "Made us official." Only words. "Saw me a lot during the week." Probably so he could have sex with you.ย So really, I don't see any redeeming social value in him. I would say you're emotionally dependent on him rather than being in love with him. Move on. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 And weren't the "positives" for only something like 7 weeks? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 You need to move some of those positives to negatives. ย "Paid for a lot 50/50." So he never treated you to anything? What a cheap bastard! "Would let me stay at his house / parents house." You're his girlfriend. Why wouldn't he let you stay at his house? "Keys to his flat." Again, because you're his girlfriend. No skin off his nose. "Talk about a future." Yeah, but didn't mean it. "Said he loved me." But did he mean it? "Made us official." Only words. "Saw me a lot during the week." Probably so he could have sex with you.ย So really, I don't see any redeeming social value in him. I would say you're emotionally dependent on him rather than being in love with him. Move on.ย I agreeย He never paid your way?ย Raise your expectations! Link to comment
Grinch2017 Posted April 3, 2018 Author Share Posted April 3, 2018 He did pay for dinners and contributed to meals. So did treat me I meant I treated him also (drove a substantial distance/paid for cinema/takeaways also). He booked my flights with his family. So was treating me Link to comment
Grinch2017 Posted April 3, 2018 Author Share Posted April 3, 2018 No 3.5 months of good 6 weeks of terrible :) Link to comment
Wayne123 Posted April 3, 2018 Share Posted April 3, 2018 It's normal to remember the positives when you break up with someone.ย You just have to force yourself to focus on the bad and be realistic as to what your life would be like with that person. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 3, 2018 Share Posted April 3, 2018 So, almost half of your relationship was terrible. ย Expect a lot more from your partners. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 3, 2018 Share Posted April 3, 2018 No 3.5 months of good 6 weeks of terrible :)ย How long do you think the "good times" would last, then, if you two somehow did get married?ย Your "good things" are so very basic. But the bad things are completely awful. Link to comment
Grinch2017 Posted April 4, 2018 Author Share Posted April 4, 2018 Really not sure ๐ค the bad things... I guess are not normal especially week after week! Wasn't even really that nice in between ๐๐ฉ๐ข Link to comment
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