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Thread: Is it strange to want to raise another family?

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    Is it strange to want to raise another family?

    lately I have been doing allot of soul searching on what I want for my future. In 2014 I got divorced we was together for 14 years she couldnít have kids it was something that I wanted. Then after that got into a relationship with someone who had a hysterectomy so no kids there was together for 4 years. I had 2 kids very young they are grown now in fact my daughter has 2 kids so ya I am a grandpa at 44. I still have that feeling that I want to have more kids. Which in then turns means I need to date a much younger woman. Now I have old school ways and beliefs but I donít look my age at all more like mid 30ís and I am stable been a Cost Accountant for 20 years. Now donít picture a regular accountant because that is not me I have tattoos, a Harley Davidson, I love the outdoors and fishing and hunting etc. Not the typical geek accountant.

    I do go to therapy to deal with some issues and have talked with my therapist about this. She donít feel that it is an issue as one of the things I was really good at was being a father. I have also read that huge age gaps tend to not work percentage wise and throw in the fact I work with percentages daily it worries me.

    So the question is am I dumb for wanting a family at 44 and pretty much means dating someone up to 15 years younger? I rather mid 30ís a bit more grown up but we will see what the dice brings.

    I was talking to someone 36 but turns out my morals and what I feel is right and or wrong is pretty common now a days. Letís just hope some old soul like myself is out there.

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    All you can do is set up a good profile and pics on dating apps, including words like 'family oriented', etc. See what shakes out.

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    No it's not strange, happens often enough.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    All you can do is set up a good profile and pics on dating apps, including words like 'family oriented', etc. See what shakes out.
    I was trying to avoid using the dating Ap's. I tend to go to events like Meet up in activities that I like to do this way you know have at least that in common. And or single mingles type of outings. Because in a AP its all fake, touched up pics, guys saying anything just to get some. Its a sea of singles on those APS I tend to find in person meeting you get to actually know the person. but who knows gonna give it a try.

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    You are not dumb but just realize this will come at a cost . Your second family will be going into college when you hit retirement. You might not end up grandpa to their kids due to age etc. Even my husband who is very very active has notice the engery beginning to wane in his late 40ís and he used to run marathons and he is military so he is no slouch. I am 51 and the energy drain has definitely hit me.

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    I take it you are no where near New York, where it's pretty common for ladies who don't have kids to still have them in their late 30's/early 40's. I popped my 2nd kid out at 37. So truth be told, I am a part of a bunch of mom facebook groups, and one of the most common questions is should I have a third or 4th kid, and you know what, they only ask, because they really want to. Never hurts to put yourself out there, and share your goals. Young could be like 37, 38, even 39!

    My first kid's neighbors/friends are quads and their mom had them at 40.

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    Originally Posted by tattoobunnie
    I take it you are no where near New York, where it's pretty common for ladies who don't have kids to still have them in their late 30's/early 40's. I popped my 2nd kid out at 37. So truth be told, I am a part of a bunch of mom facebook groups, and one of the most common questions is should I have a third or 4th kid, and you know what, they only ask, because they really want to. Never hurts to put yourself out there, and share your goals. Young could be like 37, 38, even 39!

    My first kid's neighbors/friends are quads and their mom had them at 40.
    Actually in New England that's cool.

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    I am surprised by how much I actually love being a dad.

    If something happened and I was single and around your age I could definately see myself feeling just like you.

    Not that it helps inform you of anything but just wanted to let you know I don't find it weird at all.

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    Based on your title, I thought you were gonna ask if it's weird to adopt a family, like having a mom, dad, and kids move in with you. You could also offer to babysit your grandkids more, take them on trips, so afterwards, you can send them back! My in-laws keep offering to take our eldest for a week. Can't wait! Ha!

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    Originally Posted by thealchemist
    I am surprised by how much I actually love being a dad.

    If something happened and I was single and around your age I could definately see myself feeling just like you.

    Not that it helps inform you of anything but just wanted to let you know I don't find it weird at all.
    Thank you, I think being a Dad is about the most rewarding thing I have ever done

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