Need solutions

The overall situation is my girlfriend and I live together but are probably breaking up. Shes had a benzo problem for months and has gradually grown more angry and disrespectful. One day ended with her being arrested for domestic violence after punching me and pepper spraying me for refusing to leave my own home. She's mad about me calling the cops but she kept threatening to get her brother over there, worse yet it could have been misconstrued that I was committing the crime if I didn't call.

The other day she went to court for something unrelated (bogus trespassing charge) and got mad that her violence charges would affect it and that I told her public defender about the addiction. She started arguing with me in the lobby about it so I told her I'd leave her there. Eventually we got in the car anyway she immediately demanded I get her KFC and started calling me a little b*tch and other disrespectful things. I warned her to stop and eventually left her in a parking lot to find another ride. She keeps wanting support before rehab tomorrow but I keep saying I can't help you when you push me away and hate me. She wants a sincere apology that I cant give her.

I'm pretty much stuck with her in my apartment until I can evict her or break the lease early. I'm hoping she comes out of rehab with a better attitude but if she still hates me I have to end this.

You need to end this TODAY, rehab or no rehab. She is abusing you. You don’t need to tolerate this . Is she on the lease? Personally I would pay the penalty for breaking your lease and leave . Leave her immediately.

You may be able to get a restraining order against her, especially if you've got a police report of her arrest. Doing so would get her out of the apartment and much more immediately than an eviction process. For most states, there's no fee when you're filing for one in response to domestic violence.

Keep her around and you're either going to keep getting hurt or you're going to get arrested for defending yourself.

You may be able to get a restraining order against her, especially if you've got a police report of her arrest. Doing so would get her out of the apartment and much more immediately than an eviction process.

 

Keep her around and you're either going to keep getting hurt or you're going to get arrested for defending yourself.

Absolutely, get a restraining order.

She is violent. Get a a restraining order.

This should have been over, long ago. Do not take her back.

Yes, I'd speak to an officer and get suggestions as to your situation. A restraining order could be one solution.

"I'm worried someone I care for might have a drug problem

A former significant other who I remained good friends with has been worrying me as of late. When she was prescribed Klonopin some days she would take a higher dose than prescribed and start arguments with me over what was seemingly nothing, it also seemed to affect her judgement and memory significantly. I had to come over her house and babysit her last month when she took too much of Ativan. Last night she took too much and got in an argument with me and when I tried to reason with her this morning she called me in a very bad state. She told me she took too much and she wasn't feeling well and her Mom told her she needed to go to rehab for the 2nd time this year. When I told her I thought she should get help her phone died, not being able to get a hold of her and being concerned for her safety I called 911. She freaked out on me for reacting like that, worrying she would go to a 72 hour facility. It made me incredibly upset that she was so angry at me for my concern and I kept trying to talk to her even though she was angry. Eventually she calmed down and went on this rant about how she's been taking benzos for 5 years and isn't a drug addict because she usually takes them as prescribed. I wasn't allowed to talk the whole time she was ranting and she yelled at me if I so much said "Yeah" or "Okay" but by the end of it I told her I don't think she's an addict but she definitely abuses her medication and it isn't good for her health to take too many pills. Her and I haven't really talked since but I'm very worried about her. Does this sound like a situation that warrants rehab?"

This was over a year ago. Is this the same woman? If so, this has been going on for a very long time.

"I'm worried someone I care for might have a drug problem

A former significant other who I remained good friends with has been worrying me as of late. When she was prescribed Klonopin some days she would take a higher dose than prescribed and start arguments with me over what was seemingly nothing, it also seemed to affect her judgement and memory significantly. I had to come over her house and babysit her last month when she took too much of Ativan. Last night she took too much and got in an argument with me and when I tried to reason with her this morning she called me in a very bad state. She told me she took too much and she wasn't feeling well and her Mom told her she needed to go to rehab for the 2nd time this year. When I told her I thought she should get help her phone died, not being able to get a hold of her and being concerned for her safety I called 911. She freaked out on me for reacting like that, worrying she would go to a 72 hour facility. It made me incredibly upset that she was so angry at me for my concern and I kept trying to talk to her even though she was angry. Eventually she calmed down and went on this rant about how she's been taking benzos for 5 years and isn't a drug addict because she usually takes them as prescribed. I wasn't allowed to talk the whole time she was ranting and she yelled at me if I so much said "Yeah" or "Okay" but by the end of it I told her I don't think she's an addict but she definitely abuses her medication and it isn't good for her health to take too many pills. Her and I haven't really talked since but I'm very worried about her. Does this sound like a situation that warrants rehab?"

This was over a year ago. Is this the same woman? If so, this has been going on for a very long time.

Same woman. She relapsed very quickly

Same woman. She relapsed very quickly

OP, I read your history. This woman is terrible for your mental health. You have enough to deal with. You must kick her out and be done with her.

The best thing for you, is to recognize that she has always had problems. She will not change. She has also created you disgracefully. Turn to your parents and ask them to help you to stay away from this person. She is awful.

I suggest that you read your own history. it will put things in perspective.

If this is one of these quickie rehab stays, she's probably not going to get any better. You should continue your plans to either move her out or you move out.

If this is one of these quickie rehab stays, she's probably not going to get any better. You should continue your plans to either move her out or you move out.

She's done rehab before. A lot of history.

Break the lease, pay the penalty and get away from this violent addict.