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Thread: My Wife and Her New Boss

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    Originally Posted by Rabican
    Thats some giant red flag stuff there...
    I presume you didn't read the entire thread.

    They are divorced now.

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    Originally Posted by KnightMan
    I appreciate the vote of confidence, I just think I've been pretty lucky so far.
    I don't really feel like I've handled things very well at all and I've made plenty of mistakes

    My wife managed to deceive me for 6 months
    I allowed my wife to flirt with her boss right in front of me
    I let my wife purchase an expensive watch for a man who doesn't need one
    I let her convince me that I was insecure and jealous
    I believed her lies
    I have to get tested for a disease and need therapy
    I almost let her convince me her affair was my fault
    I felt so helpless I had to turn to an anonymous internet forum for support
    I didn't even have the guts to tell her to come home until someone from this forum told me to grow a pair
    I never believed she would cheat on me but in my gut I knew she was
    I said nothing to her about the passcode on her phone
    I felt emasculated, cuckolded and worthless after reading those messages
    I have had trouble eating and sleeping and I still get those images of them in my head
    I can hardly stay focused
    I feel betrayed, lost, confused, hurt, humiliated, angry and sad
    I still love her after everything she's done
    I hate her after everything she's done
    I want to walk away from her and I can't let go of her
    I missed all the signals she says she tried to send me
    I should have seen the writing on the wall - all the red flags were there
    I had no idea what to do until the people on this forum advised me
    I pace the floor not knowing what the future holds
    Everything we have been working towards for the past 7 years is gone

    And a guy with money had my wife of 7 years in his bed within a week

    I don't feel like I have a good head - I feel like a laughing stock and a complete fool

    The good news is you're right, I have some great friends and amazing support from this board

    but remarkable? no, going to the right place at the right time and getting good advice from the right people...yes :)
    Wow crazy read... I havent been on this forum in ages.. came to post something for my cousin and saw this thread. For anyone in this situation... the way I look at these things is this all smells like BS. And once you recognize what BS smells like you know not to go back to it again. Learn from it, let it make you stronger, and next time you get a whiff of something that doesnt smell right you can put your foot down immediately and be like nah I aint doing this. You will be better for it in the end.

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    I presume you didn't read the entire thread.

    They are divorced now.
    Yeah I posted a reply and then looked up and said whoa 55 pages lol. Crazy story..

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    Update:

    I know it's been awhile, but since this virus has got most of us stuck inside, thought I would drop in to post a quick update.
    This is going to be kind of tough so please bear with me. I have good news and bad news. I'll start with the bad news first.

    Her father passed away from cancer late last year. I took it pretty hard. I actually went to visit him in the nursing home before he passed away. I had no idea he was sick until her mom called and told me he was there. By the time I got down there he couldn't even speak because of the pain medication they had given him. I'm pretty sure he knew who I was, but he could barely keep his eyes open. I just stood over him holding his hand, massaging his forehead, and telling him "I love you dad." I stayed for a couple of hours, gave him a final kiss on the top of his head and left. He died three days later.

    I went to the funeral, they even had my name listed on the obituary as his "son in-law." I sat with the family, of course the ex was there, had not seen her in forever. We didn't talk much, she was crying most of the time at the church service and all the way thru the ceremony at the cemetery. We did share a hug and a kiss before I left. She asked me what was she going to do without her dad. I told her to be strong and hang in there because her mom was going to need her now more than ever before.

    I haven't seen or talked to her since.

    After the divorce we never kept in touch. The funeral was the first time I had even seen or heard her voice in almost a year. I can't tell you what she's been up to or if she has met someone else because I don't know anything about her life anymore. I heard the OM dropped his lawsuit against the company, but I haven't heard anything about him since. I do know his ex has moved on and found someone else. I don't really keep up with any of them anymore because I have moved on as well.

    I actually met up with the girl from my fishing trip, things were actually going pretty good for a couple of weeks until her psychotic ex-boyfriend showed up and started stalking her. I thought I was seriously going to have to hurt the guy, he has some serious mental issues. I told her it was too much drama for me and we both went our mutual ways. Then out the blue, I reconnected with an old friend from high school, we started chatting on social media and eventually decided to meet up - the rest is history. We never dated in high school, we were just friends back then, but once we met up in person the sparks flew and we have been seeing each other for the past 6 months - now for the good news -

    I can feel my heartbeat again.

    We are taking it slow because we are both coming off divorces that involved cheating spouses. She's an introvert like me and we have so much in common it's scary. She is simply amazing, she's intelligent, thoughtful, and she has the cutest dimples you have ever seen. We can't stand to be away from each other and you would think we were a couple of high school kids going out on their first date when we do meet up. She has definitely put a smile back on my face and stopped the bleeding in my heart.

    My buddy is doing better than ever and I have even made a whole new circle of friends. Life is good and looking better each day.
    My new GF and I went shopping to stock me up on supplies before they locked down the city and wouldn't you know it -

    Looks like the two of us are going to be stuck here together for quite sometime.
    My oh My - what in the world will the two of us do with all this time on our hands? (wink, wink)

    Well that's about it folks - I hope all of you and your loved ones are staying safe.

    Oh and one more thing : My new heart-throb said she wanted to buy me something to celebrate
    our 6 month anniversary of dating and she asked me what would I like.

    I smiled and told her she could buy me anything - but whatever you do - don't buy me a watch - lol

    Take care everybody!
    Last edited by KnightMan; 03-24-2020 at 07:43 AM.

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    I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your father-in-law. That sounds like it was very difficult.

    Glad to hear that you've reconnected with an old friend. I did the same thing.

    He and I got stuck together for two weeks without power or hot water, during Hurricane Sandy.

    Sailed through.

    It's been about 8 years since then, and we're looking forward to the next apocalyptic disaster.

    There are a lot of perks to being with a partner that you share part of your history with.

    Good luck to you two.

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    Your update brought me a huge smile. I am so happy for you, Knightman!!

    I hope those out there that are going through something similar can find hope that there is recovery and there can be happiness after a betrayal and divorce.

    Thank you so much for the update, good news right now is wonderful to have given the circumstances.

    Please update again when you can. I am genuinely thrilled for you!

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    Originally Posted by Jibralta
    I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your father-in-law. That sounds like it was very difficult.

    Glad to hear that you've reconnected with an old friend. I did the same thing.

    He and I got stuck together for two weeks without power or hot water, during Hurricane Sandy.

    Sailed through.

    It's been about 8 years since then, and we're looking forward to the next apocalyptic disaster.

    There are a lot of perks to being with a partner that you share part of your history with.

    Good luck to you two.
    Thank you for the kind words - yes it was very difficult - but I think I'm going to be okay
    We made a lot of good memories along the way - and thanks again you for all of your replies and support!

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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    Your update brought me a huge smile. I am so happy for you knightman!!

    I hope those out there that are going through something similar can find hope that there is recovery and there is happiness after a betrayal and divorce.

    Thank you so much for the update, goodnes right now is wonderful to have given the circumstances.

    Please update again when you can. I am genuinely thrilled for you!
    You are so welcome my good friend!

    And thank you for taking time to offer your kind support along the way!

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    Knight,

    Thank you for the update! It is always good to see positive outcomes posted.

    You have done well through all this and have now built a life full of friendship and love. I am extremely happy for you.

    Remember to always pay it forward, you have experience and knowledge that needs to be shared on here and in your life.


    I knew very early on you would be more than just okay when you came out the other end. Be proud of the choices you made and the way you chose to treat your ex.


    Lost

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    Originally Posted by lostandhurt
    Knight,

    Thank you for the update! It is always good to see positive outcomes posted.

    You have done well through all this and have now built a life full of friendship and love. I am extremely happy for you.

    Remember to always pay it forward, you have experience and knowledge that needs to be shared on here and in your life.


    I knew very early on you would be more than just okay when you came out the other end. Be proud of the choices you made and the way you chose to treat your ex.


    Lost
    Thank you my friend!
    Your wisdom and kind words had much to do with this positive outcome!

    I hope you and your family are well.

    Please stay safe and take care!

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