lonestar89 Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 If you've seen my last and only post you know I've been dealing with toxic parents for all my life; I am in my late twenties. A little while ago my grandma, who I've lived with since 2015, just let me know after months of my searching for a job that I have an interview tomorrow. Obviously, I'm going to take the opportunity but I can't help but feel like this is going to be used for even more ridicule (ie making me the butt of EVERY joke every time we meet up) Am I being paranoid Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Why is she informing you of this interview? Do this asap:Recently I decided to go back to school and move on campus.I'm in my late twenties Link to comment
xcookie7x Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 My parents are somewhat controlling, specifically with dating and finding me a man so I kind of get where you're coming from. All I can say is to take this opportunity if you see it being a job you'd be okay working, and continue to tell them it is your life your decision on things. Just continue to be assertive. It's honestly all you can do with family unless you choose to cut ties completely, which I don't see necessary unless it's genuinely affecting your quality of life. Link to comment
DanZee Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Well, you're 28 and it's time you stand on your own two feet. You need to get a job, get an apartment and stop living at home. If you act like a victim, then you are a victim. Unless you have a disability that accounts for the way family and friends treat you, you have to show some maturity and go out on your own. Link to comment
jimthzz Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Did your grandma answer a phone message, open your mail? What? Link to comment
lonestar89 Posted January 30, 2018 Author Share Posted January 30, 2018 I have lived on my own before I moved back home when I was 25 Link to comment
lonestar89 Posted January 30, 2018 Author Share Posted January 30, 2018 No she told me that she was talking to her friend. Her friend is a supervisornat the job I may potentially get Link to comment
jimthzz Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Thar could be a decent job, if you are interested in it. I once got a job right out of high school after lolling about for four months. My neighbor's dad called me on the phone. I ended up delivering office supplies for a year then went to college. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Yes you are. Honestly, learn to tune out negative voices and you'll do yourself the greatest favor ever. Doesn't matter if those voices are coming from family, co-workers, or strangers. It's just noise. Stay focused on what you NEED to do right now, today to succeed and you will. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 31, 2018 Share Posted January 31, 2018 Why did you move back home? When was the last time you worked? Are you in school? Link to comment
lonestar89 Posted January 31, 2018 Author Share Posted January 31, 2018 I felt (and to some degree was told) that I would have a better life if I moved...a total lie. The last time I worked was early last yr...I've been getting unemployment checks but have been told that I should file an extension. I got a job off the books but lost it because of Irma and am now in default with financial aid. They told me that if I could pay 6 consecutive payments ON TIME I can qualify for aid; I was able to talk the payments down to $6/month so I will actually be 29 by the time I go back to School Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 31, 2018 Share Posted January 31, 2018 If you go to the local department of social services they could help you with living arrangements, finances, education, health care and employment help. It sounds like a better deal than living with toxic relatives.I've been getting unemployment checks but have been told that I should file an extension. Link to comment
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