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    Kizzy

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    He chose his lodgers side so I broke up with him but still love him

    I just broke up with my boyfriend of one year because 4 months ago he let a friend move into his house with him she asked him ,and in turn he asked me if it was ok I said yes. she was only supposed to be there until she got herself together after she split from her husband. I had a go at her one night my boyfriend took her side said I shouldn't of done that. Not one of my friends think it was ok for her to live there anyway I got fed up with the whole suituation so broke up with him , thing is I still love him he told me he loved me and had never connected with anyone the way he did with me if this is so how could he let me go ? Was I wrong ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kizzy [Register to see the link]
    he asked me if it was ok I said yes

    Was I wrong ?
    He asked you. You agreed and said yes. So, yes, I would say you were wrong. Unless there's a lot more to the story .......

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kizzy [Register to see the link]
    if this is so how could he let me go ? Was I wrong ?
    So you used breaking up as a manipulation tool to get him to agree with you and chase you back? Nice. Iíd advise your ex to move forward and never look back.

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    What do you mean you "had a go at her"?

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    i told her in a not too polite way to stop leaving all her stuff around the house
    I

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    Sounds like you did your boyfriend a favor.

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    As in ? Please explain

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kizzy [Register to see the link]
    i told her in a not too polite way to stop leaving all her stuff around the house
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    It's not your house. Going into someone else's home and telling them how to live is incredibly rude. It doesn't matter that she's only there temporarily.

    Don't break up with people you want to stay with. Breaking up to get your way in a fight is immature and messy. And now you have to live with the choices you made.

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    Is it your house?

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    Yeah, it doesn't sound like you were actually okay with her moving in.

    And instead of talking about it with your boyfriend, you agreed to her moving in, internalized your frustrations over the living situation, and then as a result, lost it on your boyfriend's friend when she was leaving things around his house. My guess is that you lost it on her not as a result of her leaving things around the house, but because you didn't like the fact that she was living there.

    Unfortunately, this all back-fired.

    Were you hoping that by breaking up with him, he'd kick his friend out of the house and ask for you back?

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